I decided that I shld post more pics on my blog... there is a period of time where there is only words and more words... So more colours pls... This is a pic taken during last dec sometime near xmas, @Rice Table... Nice to meet your friends and gather for a dinner n stuff... One of the most wonderful things abt life is memories... good ones are there to keep, bad ones are there to learn... end of the day, when u reach the end of ur life, u can look back at all the memories, and smile, and ask urself if u r satisfied with ur life...

I signed up 3 mths with fitness first... just to try it out... with more time on my hand now, and April 1st coming, I definitely need to get my self in shape, and perhaps this will force me too, so that i can make my money well-spent...

After the workout, I made use of my IC voucher and gave her a treat as promised @ Olive Tree... the food was so-so... variety not alot, but a few dishes were really nice... I decided to give the desserts a miss due to my never-healing throat... But I promised myself to try the choco cake next time... hee, I am a sucker for chocolate... so presents hor, give me chocolate ok?!

Here is a topic for ur thoughts again... how long is long in a relationship? I have frens who have been with their other halfs for 6/7/8 years... and not married, no plans whatsoever... strange in a way... but how do u define long? Sometimes, too long in a relationship without a change may be destructive... I mean, to some couples, everything become a habit... a habit to kiss goodbye, a habit to hold hands, a habit to have dinner with the family... somehow after a while, these habits become so automatic, that u forgot what actually made u do it in the first place... The desire, which I mentioned in my previous entry, is not there anymore... A good change like marriage would obviously be good... but is it totally good? There is always exceptions to everything... However, not everything is a bed of roses...

I used to have a friend in Uni who had multiple girlfriends at one go... and another friend, who can never commit seriously to a relationship, he will actually declare to the gf that the relationship is not a full relationship as there will be no strings attached... Marriage to these frens may not be an easy process... perhaps mayb when they are older... Which brings me to the next question, how long shld a couple take to make the commitment that they are going to walk down the isle? Is a length thing (as in length of relationship), or a age thingy (ie. how old r u?)? First of all, which part of the r/s do u ask yourself the commitment question? I noe of a guy who got a flat with the gf but when the flat is coming, he still dunno whether he can commit? Is it wrong of him? or even irresponsible to apply for a flat before going thru the thoughts of committing? Everyone is entitled to his opinions... and here is mine, DO NOT buy or apply a flat, if u r not sure u wan to go down the isle with this person. (from personal experience) There is two folds to this, firstly, the emotional issue, the other party will actually think so, think that u wan to get married to him/her... so in a way, u gave false impressions or hopes to this person... Secondly, the financial issue, if u guys ever to break up coz of any reason, be it third party, character problem, or whatsoever, the financial burden is there... and it is NOT FAIR to the other party... unless u have the sense of responsibility to bear the entire loss... Whether it is emotional or financial, it is a big NO-NO...

Another topic : Can good friends become a couple? This interesting topic actually came ard twice, when I met two different frens for dinner... so I thought it would be interesting... What is your views? Personally, I think there is always good and bad abt things... Good thing abt it is that the couple would have understand and known each other considerably well, even at the starting stage... The friendship could serve to be a stepping stone towards great love... However, the friendship could be too strong to develop into a r/s... sometimes, close friends got together becos of the fact that they get along so well. that they THOUGHT it could be a good stepping stone as mentioned, however, whether it is really one is still anyone's guess... to some couple it helps, to some, it doesnt... worse if u actually mistaken the close friendship as something intimate and when u try to take another step forward, things become weird... and not sustainable... and the friendship is soured and affected... not worth it... But if a pair of good friends come to me and ask if they shld try out a r/s? I will tell them to go for it... No harm trying, the important thing is to maintain the friendship if the r/s dun work out... but if it does, usually the r/s will turn out to be one of the best r/s known...

Lastly, I want to tell all my friends this : Stop for a moment, stop thinking abt what your life could be, might be, what your friends think it will be, what ur parents think... STOP, think abt WHAT YOU WANT... what u wan in a r/s, what u wan in your life, what u wan in your career, what u wanna do for the next 10/20 years... WANT is the key word, and the meaning according to the dictionary is, To desire greatly; wish for... u shld work towards what u WANT, not what u can accept...

Jusy my 2 cents worth... time to sleep... ZZzz...

How do u know when he/she is the one? - Someone read my blog recently and ask me abt the story I posted... the one fr radio... The question is "how do they know that he/she is the one in 3 mths?" And I replied, it really depends on what is ur definition of "the one"... I mean, everyone's opinion of how "the one" is different... all the BS abt chemistry, love at first sight are fr pple who dunno their own... I am in strong opinion that all people, all ages, races, sex will know the certain quality(s) that his/her ONE must hv... of coz, being comfortable is usually the first one... but what else? Some friend told me, "my gf doesnt like me to watch soccer", well, this could be one, that the gf at least doesnt MIND him watching soccer... or basically anything he likes to do... After all these criterias, then u come to the "feeling" part... first of all, I tink u must be okay spending huge amt of time together without getting bored... commitment... similar opinions of life etc etc... The point is, there could be 1001 criterias, but ur ONE need not fulfil all, but at least a number of them... Most importantly when u r spending time with him/her, u must be able to visualise your life when u r married, with kids... old... n ask urself, "is that how I want to spend the rest of my life?" If u cant visualised, forget it, NOT the one, if u dun want to spend your life like tat, forget it, NOT the one as well...

Ang baba came in with abt 15 matches to go during the Jan transfer window and create havoc. He placed bids like nobody's business as he is taking Chelsea, with 100+ mil of transfer budget. ridiculous... he lose the first few matches but won the rest of the season all the way to the League title. This season's league was more fun, the title wasnt decided until the last day of the League, which is a 1st in our game. Normally, the champions would have sew it up with abt 2-3 matches to spare. This season cup finals are interesting. LC was won by Becks, FA by HF. HF and me got into the UEFA and CL cup final respectively but lose, hf lose 1-0 to valencia, while (very angrily), I lose to Barca on penalties, after haing double the number of shots... Very perturbed... I was really hopeful of winning the CL again after winning it during Season 3. KNS...

Here is the summary,

EPL : 1st-Chelsea, 2nd-Liverpool, 3rd-Man U, 4th-Spurs (All 4 of us got into CL)
FA Cup Winners : Spurs (HF), Liverpool on 5th round exit
League Cup Winners : Man U (Becks), Liverpool exit in Semis
UEFA Cup Winners : Valencia (Com), Spurs in Final
Champions League Winners : Barcelona (Com), Liverpool in Final

A lot of transfer are done for next season even before the season ends. Let see how they fared... In season 6

Oh well, Monday, DD and I will be departing for our much-deserved KL trip. She has been working pretty hard recently, and I guess it is time she took a break. I need this trip much also... well, things havent been pretty at work... some ridiculous demands as i last updated... it is amazing that how "people" think that they can get whatever they want just by saying it. A**holes...You would have notice that the link to my blog has changed. Reason, I had comments that my blog address is hard to remember... ok, here u are, since I have been using sanjing07 for almost all my emails, it would be appropriate more than anything else.

I am currently waiting for the Wigan-Liverpool match. My dear lousy-pool hasnt been winning for a while. Well, Chelsea, Man U and Arsenal have been dropping points of late. Why? I have the perfect reason : The upcoming World Cup in Germany. U see, teams like them have star and important players, Chelsea-Lampard, Terry, Arsenal-Henry, Campbell, Man U-Rooney, Rio, Liverpool-Gerrard. Why is it I only mentioped these names, well, they are the one who are most influential and currently the inconsistent ones. However, if u can see the style, there are also the ones who are almost certain to play an important role in their countries' world cup teams. Almost definite starters... So do u think they will give it all? hmm... think again... If I am them, I wont wan to get injured at this stage in my career. If u can recognise, Chelsea has a 15 points lead in EPL, so they can afford to drop a couple of points... on the other hand, the chasers doesnt have much hope of catching up esp with the huge lead, and Chelsea doesnt seems to be losing at all. They have only drop points through draws, which means u r only catching up 2 points each round. If u count mathematically, they will need Chelsea to LOSE more matches in order for them to count up, which doesnt look like it is happening. So most of them's mentality will probably be just do enough to get to the champions league next season and next, to the World Cup.

Today is the anni for me and my DD, 3 years and counting. Life has been kind to us to a certain extent. For this anni, I have prepared Qi Li Xiang (Jay Chou's song name) for her. What is it? haha... it is just SEVEN letters which i wrote and sent to her thru snail mail, hand-written. One letter per day. Sometimes I think such mails still holds alot of sincerity than things like emails. Technology and Science can only go so far, then comes God and Love. There are certain things which cannot be replaced by whatever gadgets u hv, and love is one of them.

Frankly speaking, I can't even remember when was the last time I sat down and wrote a letter. However, I do feel that as we grow older, we tend to be less romantic, due to many reasons esp work. And this romance may or may not come back when u retire. I still remember last time when I was in sec sch, things are always more fun... perhaps becos we are not yet grown-ups, so presents tend to be filled more with sincerity, more simplicity and more thoughts come into play. Well, I am not a cannsanova, but I do have a bag of tricks or two. hee... The most number of letters I have written was 19 in a row... u might ask why. It was during my first relationship when I was enlisted to Tekong. Enlistment started on a wed, and you won't go back to Singapore until two weekends later, the 2nd weekend being the parents visiting day. So I wrote a letter a day for my gf then, so that she dun miss me that much. I think I was too free then... haha... But hey, sometimes things wont go your way, that ex gf of mine betrayed my trust when I was still in BMT then...

But that's life u noe, u got to go on... Over the years, from NS, to Uni to now, I think my own personal opinion and life handling has changed a lot. In many ways, I learned to cherish what I have in front of me, more that is... and I also learn to see things less significantly after they passed... A past relationship, a not-so-good exam result, a bad decision in autosurf, investment, work related problems, I learned to take them in my own stride... Like I learned that work is never-ending, so u got to give yourself a break, cut yourself some slack once in a while. Like a game is just a game (basketball, online game, FM etc), u can get angry for a minute or two, but never allow it to affect u more than five minutes of your life. Love life are filled with ups and downs too, one day u are happy, one day u are not... things change... and u can't stop the change... I always say this : "A relationship is a journey of understanding, u can never fully understand a person." Because Life changes... people change... that is why people got married but can't stand each other after a few years, and divorce. It may happen to me, or anyone else as a matter of fact. More importantly is how you handle the change, how you allow the change to blend into your life, or how you want to bend the change back to what it was. But how you handle them that will determine how your life will turn out to be. Learn to understand that decisions made may not be able to be reverse at times. So whether you like it or not, you have to live with the consequences of what you do. It may leave you with happiness, fear, guilt, stupidity, a puzzling feeling or even extreme sadness, so take a break if you need, but be sure you come back stronger than ever.

CheerZ

After reading some reports, true and false from various sources and talking to some people, here is my take on the issue.

Unlikely though, but it IS a possibility. Unlikely becos it has lasted too long to be a scam. If it is one, it would have run away long ago. However, it is a possibility. Possibility that it is a well-worked scam, out to con people and companies money, and the only reason why it has choose now is that it has reached the scamming target. However, since only autosurf's accounts are frozen and not individuals, this is still a very remote possibility.

A higher possibility than 1. Reason being of all the people go deposit money thru CC and then dispute the transactions later. This is one flaw for CC. Because of all the damages they hv to pay, funds are running out. Every business even banks need cash flow to do whether they need to do, so Stormpay is not exception. Having run into such a problem, one of the ways is to exploit the biggest user of stormpay, the autosurf programs. Perhaps to request some help from them to tide thru this period, or worse, blackmail them. However, that wont be legal. As such, this is only a small possibility though not impossible.

Definitely possible. Since long ago, pple has been asking why stormpay and netiba has the same boss. Egold was raided late last yr too coz of such issues. Though it was resolved, it took some time and all the autosurf were forced to drop Egold as a result. Stormpay could hv run into similar problems. If this is the case, it would spell BIG trouble for us.