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Friday, March 31, 2006 || Jay Chou's Shan Hu Hai
TO a fren who likes to sing KTV... and also, this is one of my current fav songs... enjoy
Hisashi Mitsui |3/31/2006 12:34:00 AM
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Wednesday, March 29, 2006 || Chemistry? What is it?
According to the dictionary, chemistry means : The science of the composition, structure, properties, and reactions of matter, especially of atomic and molecular systems. sounds ridiculous in Dr Love's context... was talking to a fren yst abt first impressions and stuff... then it came to my mind abt this topic... Seriously, what is chemistry? It is a VERY big word in love... easy to use to... usual use, "She is pretty, but I dun hv chemistry with her leh"... sounds simple to use, easy to deploy... however, what is chemistry? being comfortable with each other? even the first date? being comfortable enuff to confide in? seriously, this is a subjective thing. Some pple just gets comfortable enuff to tell the other everything the first time they met, and some find 10, 20 dates still find some difficulties talking to each other... so seriously, this is something which is really very FATE... on the other hand, is this the Chemistry everyone is talking abt? if comfort is the main word abt chemistry, what abt physical comfort? i m not talking abt sleazy stuff... but more of something like, being comfortable to be seen with this person? This will of coz take looks into play... shallow as it might sounds, but there ARE some pple who prefer a good-looking person as a gf... What abt mind-reading? some refer chemistry to the ability to understand or even think like the other person without words... sometimes, some pple can hv their thoughts read easily... of coz, it can be due to this, common thoughts, u noe, how pple from the same background can think alike... doesnt really mean u hv chemistry... so how do u verify this? seriously, i dun noe... for me, i tink it is more of a "enjoy" thingy, someone whom u enjoy doing everything with, from watching movie in cinemas to watching dvds at home, from playing computer games at home to playing arcade, from eating nice restaurants to eating hawker food, from having romantic dates to lazing at the beach, from buying presents for her/him to receiving it, from shopping with her to watching u play soccer... you shld enjoy these... from the simplest to the most romantic ones... if u can find a person who can do these with u, then not only hv u found chemistry, but enjoyment... and happiness...
U noe how some pple reminds their frens abt someone else? I had a case recently... dunno if it is a good thing or a bad one... for me at least... the impression, or reminder of impression is strong, so much so that somehow, it is freaky... for me plesantly freaky though... first impression definitely counts... but i still believe in behaving as oneself... to understand a person, u hv to see the real him/her... but if he hides himself, then how do u noe him? u may noe u noe, but in the end, it is a different him u noe...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/29/2006 07:12:00 PM
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Tuesday, March 28, 2006 || An Oldie by Jacky Cheung
haha... Have been spending the night watching MTVs on youtube... this is the best i found, an oldie from Jacky Cheung, long long ago... one of my fav from him... So i m going to put on my bloggy so that i can watch it again and again... haha...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/28/2006 09:22:00 PM
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Rekindled? According to the dictionary, this word means To revive or renew. This simple often happened in our life, rekindled passion in sports, rekindled love for an old lover, rekindled friendship with an old friend, rekindled the interest in a hobby, for me, today, it is "rekindled the love for chocolate", haha... Anyway, do u believe in rekindled love? Here is my personal experience, my first gf was with me for 6mths, 5mths, and 1 and 1/2 years respectively. Yes, we broke up a couple of times before the final one. A case of rekindled love, I dunno... After the second breakup, I was quite sure that whatever the reason tat broke us up, it is something which I cannot live with. Somehow, I agreed to give it another try again. My parents love her... and she is a fantastic girl... In the end, it just din worked out and it is due to the same reason that broke us up the second time. Well, I am glad she is happily married now as well. So you can guess what my opinion is abt rekindled love. Unless, the reason that broke u up isn't there anymore. Then perhaps it is something which worth trying. Or perhaps it is something which WAS a hindrance, but not anymore... For those of u who tried before, like me, well, give urself a pat on the back. Sometimes it is not easy to face something which is a burden and try to discard it the second time round... To face that burden requires courage and most of all, endurance and determination. Some would have succeed, others like me failed. Is it worth the try? Well, u decide...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/28/2006 06:52:00 PM
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(0) comments In the End by Linkin Park
This is one of my all-time rap-rock song by Linkin Park. Not only coz of the song tune, I particularly like the lyrics. I like this song so much, I was blasting it everyday in hall last time when I was in uni... rapping out is shiok.. !!!!
"I tried so hard and get so far, in the end it doesn't even matter, I headed too far to lose it all, but in the end it doesn't matter" Very true... In life, no matter what u do, u can go 80% or 99% of the way, but if something screws up, in the end, it doesn't really matter.
Hisashi Mitsui |3/28/2006 06:51:00 PM
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Monday, March 27, 2006 || A fulfilling Day n....
Anyway, some thoughts came to my mind when I was driving back home... you know how sometimes when ur mood is good, u tend to daydream or wonder ur thoughts ard... and these thoughts just go places where sometimes they nvr go before... My thoughts went into the region of "how come" and "why"... Having met up with so many frens after IT happen, i realised that sometimes i dun really noe my frens that well... So you noe your frens, then somehow, u got an impression of what kind of partner this person will end up with... usually with some similar or common interests, with some opposite character to attract each other... but dunno why, this fren of urs, ended up with someone, u totally dun even tink they will be comfortable with each other, or even enjoy each other's company... I guess that is what i termed by, Beauty is in the eyes of the Beholder... On the other hand, some girls just ended up with jerks... and they r not even Bi*ches for your info, I am talking about Good-looking, well-manner, totally wife-material kind of girls, ended up with some guys who treats her like an accessories, bringing her ard to show frens, and to his own activities without due consideration whether she likes it or not... or how some perfectly-well temper guy ended up with a crazy woman, who shouts and screams at him at the slightest chance... ignoring how this guy feels, even in public... seriously, I am wondering, Do pple actually like to torture themselves? or Do pple actually like Bad boys or girls? Seriously, I also dunno... perhaps they fell in love too easily, at the slightest opportunity... something for u to ponder...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/27/2006 06:14:00 PM
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Sunday, March 26, 2006 || Still my Fav Jay Chou's song
To a fren who loves Jay Chou... Enjoy... This remains as my fav Jay chou song...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/26/2006 10:30:00 PM
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(0) comments Girls, Will you do this?
But my question is, for girls that is, Will you have the courage to express your intentions? Will it be direct or indirect? This is of course, if u feel that this guy have a possibility to be the man of your dreams.
Frankly, in this new-age century, where some pple are talking abt equal rights between male and female, the society we live in here in Singapore is still pretty traditional and conservative. Thus, females still choose to take a backseat and be the party to be woo, rather than the other way round. However, we must, once again, decide to what extent should u start a relationship or not... For those girls whom have the courage to do it, I salute you!!! Guys who have no courage, buck up, some girls are beating you hands down... haha...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/26/2006 07:50:00 PM
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(0) comments Part 3 of my short story
Part 3 (Final)... hope it din bore anyone
However, it was also during the first date when Susan found out the dramas of Peter's life. His last relationship was far from a bed of roses. They actually got a flat and ROMed due to it. Despite the doubts that Peter had for the relationship when the flat was bought, Peter decided to have faith in her, and in God to make things worked between them. It wasn't to be, she left him for another man. A blow for Peter indeed, a blow which caused him to look at life differently, at the changes of life, and the uncertainty of it, and yet embraced it as it comes. He got over the blow much faster than he expected. Susan felt sorry for him, but at the same time, contemplated the certain possibility of them getting together and the challenges they might faced. However, Susan knew that God had plans for them, but what she didn't know was how wonderful things will eventually turns out to be.
It was not until about 3 weeks later that Peter popped the question asking Susan to be his girlfriend. Though it wasn't the most romantic try, it was one of the more sincere ones Susan came across. It was their 6th date, and Peter just popped the question after sending her home. He told Susan how beautiful she is, and how he had changed since previous relationships, and wanted to give it a shot with her, feeling the chemistry between them. She agreed instantly. Peter was truthful throughout the time they met and chatted. He did not try to hide the unsuccessful "marriage" that he had, though it was more of a procedural documentation process. He was forth-coming about some of the problems faced during his past relationships, and with regards to work, time management and any grievence that his ex-girlfriends ever had. He wanted her to know that he knew that some of these problems can be solved and he will try, if she agreed to be his girlfriend. The openness that he put forth made Susan very comfortable with him, unlike a few two-faced boyfriends whom she dated previously.
The relationship started off nice and steady. Both of them realised that it is not wise to rush into emotional hype and elect to develop their feelings for each other with time. Susan was wary at first, and soon let her guards down as time goes. Peter, on the other hand, lived the relationship like it is the last day of his life. He will tell her how much he liked her everything, her hair, the way she talked, the way she walked, even the way she tried to crack some really cold jokes. Despite that fact that Peter's previous relationship was far from successful, Susan knew that it was from that relationship that Peter had become the open, optimistic and self-sacrificing person. It is also from that relationship that Peter learned to enjoy everyday of their relationship despite not knowing what will eventually happen to them. Susan appreciated this more than ever, especially after coming out from a relationship that were filled with more lies than anything else. Strangely, she felt that if they hadn't gone through their previous failed relationships, they might not enjoy this one as much. She knew that it was the work of God, and she was determined to make it work.
His first Valentine's Day present was a strange but meaningful one - A compass. In his letter, he described Susan as his True North, a direction in life, that he found. No matter how lost he is in life, she will be the ultimate goal, to give her happiness and to let her guide him in darkness, trust her directions and have faith in her. She cried after reading the letter and hope to reciprocate the love he is willing to give her. And at that moment of time, she realised how lucky she was, to have a man to love her wholeheartedly, without conditions nor demands but just to allow him to. He believes in love in a way which she never thought exist.
As Susan place the compass back into her glass cabinet, a certain broken keychain catches her sight, two pieces of a dice. She picks them up, trying to recall why she had left a broken thing in the same cabinet containing memories of her and Peter. On one piece, there are a few letters, "1st Q". Susan suddenly remember that it was during their first quarrel that caused the dice to be broken. Peter is a salesperson, had flexible but odd working hours. Sometimes he worked every night, meeting clients, sometimes he can stayed at home for 3 days without working. It was something which Susan had to come to terms with. However, the only thing Susan cannot come to terms with is the fact that he had to visit sleazy KTV lounges with clients. Although Peter is very open that he will not do anything, she can't help imagining how the clients will forced girls onto him, touching the man she loved most, without her permission. They quarrelled over it, over a long-standing problem. The dice was a small present given to her, symbolizing the gratitude to her for taking the chance to meet him for the first date. She was so angry and heated during the argument, that she threw the dice, breaking it in the process. Despite a quiet-natured person, Susan is a person who cannot control her actions when she is angry. Peter left without a word of goodbye, preferring to talk to a calm and rationale Susan, instead of the monster in front of him. Two weeks later, Peter left his job for another, one that doesn't require him to deal with clients in those smokey lounges. Susan immediately knew how much this man loved her. And she made her first attempt to cook since Home Economics class in Secondary School, making a lunch box of Nasi Lemak and delivered to his office, in appreciation of what Peter did.
Life is definitely not just a bed of roses, but looking through the cabinet, Susan was glad that there are so much fond memories left instead of terrible ones. As she lay on the bed, she know that she had made the right choice, and their lives will be shared on equal grounds built with a foundation of strong love, truthfulness, and self-sacrifice. She knows that it will not be easy, but with Peter, she is willing to work on it, just as Peter is as well. She sat up to complete her wedding vow, and as she looks at it, she knows that the meaning of it all, is more than the words written, and Peter will know what she meant, just as he always does.
"You took me from the crowd, and brought me to safety.
You lead me away, and bring me calmness.
You made everything simple and You made life worth living
The sacrifices you made, bring you closer
The promises you kept, bring me higher
And as we come to this day, trusting each other, loving each other
I promise to love you in every way, and every breathe that I take"
Hisashi Mitsui |3/26/2006 09:46:00 AM
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(0) comments Lessons of Life and Part 2
Here is part 2 of my short story... Enjoy, hopefully... haha... by now, some would hv realised some coincidences... hee
They found a bench by the pool, and Peter cleaned it up before inviting Susan to take a seat. They both chatted about how they knew Charlie and how he always wanted to get together with Melissa. Peter talked about how Charlie will sneakily used his handphone to call Melissa after lights-off at Tekong. They were the greatest buddies. As the party crowd slowly dispersed, they realised that it was time to go, but they still didn't know each other's names, perhaps an indication of how engrossed they were in the conversations. Peter finally introduced himself, and they exchanged phone numbers. And that was how they first met.
With that first piece of memory, Susan penned down the first sentence of her vow. She can't help but realised that in her marriage which is 3 days later, it is a classic case of opposite attracts, a case of quiet, non-athletic girl attracting a guy whom loves sports and with a open attitude. She loves his straight-forwardness, knowing that if one day, he were to try to hide something from her, she will easily notice it. He is a very bad liar. She loves the way he looks at her, as if, there are diamonds in her eyes, and the way they kissed, as if it will be the last one. His simple looks made everything they did simple as well. They will tell each other if they are unhappy about something, they will kiss the other whenever they felt loved. He made loving each other simple and easy. They were crazy about each other. And most important, they had faith in each other, the faith that their lives are much better off with the other around. They also shared the faith in God.
The phone rang, and it was Peter. He will usually call at this time of the day, asking her how is her day. She was determined not to let him know that she was preparing her wedding vow, because she wants to make it special. The excitement of the marriage seems to get to Peter. He sounds tense, as he enquires about the some of the details of the biggest event in his life, 3 days later, he actually stammer a couple of times. He wanted it to be perfect, for her. She tried her best to calm him down by telling him, everything will be wonderful, and perfect, no matter what happens. As they ended their conversations, Peter suddenly said, "I am a lucky man !!". And Susan knew this is one of the many reasons she wants to marry this man.
As she hangs up the phone, she recalls that he said that too, during their first date. His attempts in asking her out was far from easy. Despite the good impression he thought he left during the party, he had to go through multiple rejections by her before she finally agreed. Peter remembered that rejection count at five, but Susan still thinks it was four. Susan remembered that it was Lexie's idea to keep the number of rejections at a minimum number of three, though she added one herself. So that they knew if this guy is genuinely interested, or just trying his luck. Peter is someone who will go all out to get what he likes. He is not a cute guy, nor someone with lots of cash in his pocket. But he does believe that you should always give it a shot in whatever you believe is worth it. And Susan was. Both of them went to the date, not knowing what to expect. Indeed, the thirty minutes spent at the party do not give anyone a true account of what kind of person the other is.
The date was simple, movie followed by dinner. However, it is really how gentlemanly Peter behaved that left a huge impression on Susan. He insisted on picking her up on the day because he is the one with the transport. He will open the car door at every opportunity and any other door for her to enter. He will pull her chair before she sits down and allows her to place her order before he does. And the first sentence after she entered the car was, "I am a lucky man to get a YES after a NO for 5 times, haha". And for that moment, she thought how this guy appreciates the positives so much more than the negatives.
Hisashi Mitsui |3/26/2006 12:17:00 AM
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Saturday, March 25, 2006 || Don't lose that 90% you already have
This is an email sent to me by a chio bu... I thought it was interesting so decided to put it here to share with everyone. Somehow goes along with my theory that you should find someone who fits 90% of what you want. Enjoy...
Everyday thing that we may not realize...
Don't lose that 90% you already have....
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.
"Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not."
Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.
Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 90 of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 10%.
Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature. You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laughter. Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pyjamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt.
Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.
But wait! That's only 10% of what you don't have. Don't throw away the 90% that you already have! Add to your spouse's 90% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other.
The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. But faithfulness happens when you start thanking for what you already have.
But I'm not just talking about marriage. I'm talking about life!
About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.
Do you like the economy airline???
The main message: If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are is FIRST CLASS!
Hisashi Mitsui |3/25/2006 02:01:00 AM
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Friday, March 24, 2006 || My first attempt at a short story (Part 1)
I always wanted to be a script writer of some sort, bringing stories to movies or something. However, since young, my language has always been weak, even now. But wth, I think i shld just try. I just finished my first short story. Not something magnificient, but I hope everyone who reads it enjoy it. And yes, pardon my English, haha...
The Wedding Vow (part 1)
A wedding vow, something which everyone hopes to exchange only once in their life. Fortunate or unfortunate ones get to do it twice, or more. The meaning behind it, so deep, so rich, and filled with memories. As Susan picks up her pen and try write something, she wants it to be meaningful, not to mushy and yet expressed her love for Peter. In three days, Susan and Peter will be walking down the aisle, to take their first wedding vows, after being with each other for 2 years, 9 months and 12 days. The preparations are done, her sisters are all pumped up for the occassions, the gown is all ready, clean and white.
As she looks at the past photos of them to get some inspirations, it reminds her of the ups and downs of the relationships, the difficulties, the chemistry between them, the quarrels, and the time they shared together, it flows like the river down stream. Her eyes got fixed on one, taken on the 10 June 2000, the day they first met. It was Charlie's engagement party with Melissa, after 3 months of courtship, and years of thinking about each other, they found the desire and courage to take the step forward. Charlie was Susan's tuition buddy when they were in Primary School and also Peter's army mate. It was during the games portion that Susan and Peter first exchanged words. She is never known to be a party animal. She will hold a drink and stand by the side, smiling and giggling at the funny things people do when they are a little drunk. Peter is the type who sees something, or someone he likes and will go all out to get her. Susan wasn't exactly the type he thought he will drool over, but definitely someone who will get his attention. He parted himself from the drunken zoo and sat on a chair, allowing him to look at his prey. Susan noticed his sight and the attention she was getting. Their sights crossed, and Peter walked over.
"Hi, not joining the fun?", "I am having fun, watching" Susan replied, with a giggle in between.
"So you are a friend of Charlie or Mel?", Peter asked.
"Charlie, Lexie, the one doing the elephant trunk spin there, and me are tuition buddies when we were in Primary School", answered Susan, still carrying a smile from Lexie's hilarious actions.
"Ehrm, you mind taking a walk?", Peter said.
Susan thought for a while, and nodded, and not knowing why she agreed in the first place.
End of Part 1
Hisashi Mitsui |3/24/2006 05:04:00 PM
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Thursday, March 23, 2006 || security
A fren posted abt the mood in the sqn... and I agreed hands and legs up... It has been a period of unhappiness of discontentment... Sometimes, work has a terrible definition to it... rewards are not given fairly... work done are not recognised... I guess it has to do with the nature of the work... Indeed, in a job like mine, not everyone is suited for the job... some buggers cant control for nuts... some simply cant seems to understand why we are doing so many other work other than controlling, others just wanted to climb up without due care to what happen to others (ie. backstabbing) I must admit, in an industry like mine, there are some weird characters around, precisely coz their EQ are too low for them to achieve anything major outside... Others, are just wasting their talent and time as their work will be more recognised and appreciated outside... Having a chat with my boss makes me give up hope... My boss, is probably one of the most hardworking people ard... is not recognised for his efforts... It is disheartening... really... wth, i m still stuck for 3 years, so we will see how things goes...
Let's talk abt something else... In some of my previous entries, I mentioned a few times that LOOKS is usually one of the big factors in r/s... Have it ever occur to u that when u walked down Orchard, u will see some really chio babes when so-so looking guys... and some really cute girls with so-so looking girls... A fren ever asked me why, and my answer to them is, Security... indeed, this "sense of security" is something a lot of people wanted... esp in a r/s... sometimes more than anything else... The fear of being hurt is high... The fear of being dumped is higher... In a century like this, heart changing, breaking up, divorce is becoming a common thing...besides a change of heart, I tink sometimes people are just taking the easy way out... and at the end of the day, the children, if any, are the ones who suffer... And the story doesnt stops there, damaged marriages and dented r/s will sometimes leave a mark on the children... There is a chinese saying : nan2 pa4 ru4 cuo4 hang2, nui3 pa4 jia4 cuo4 lang2。。。 very very true...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/23/2006 07:43:00 PM
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Monday, March 20, 2006 || Communications
A fren recently asked me a really direct question, though I tink few had the answer... What is the most important thing in a relationship? I thought for a while, and remember a hall fren asking me the same question when i was in Yr 3/4... I thought for very long to remember the answer and finally, told me fren, communications... I always thought no matter how bad the situation is, it is usually boils down to a sparks in the first place... of coz, excluding more serious stuff like character difference... Communications, a simple word for relationships, but often not practised also... I always think that, if the couple communicate on their unhappiness, abt each other, abt life, abt money, anything... they will be able to solve any problem, provided they put their mind to it. I believe 99.9% of problems have a solution, sometimes more than one... but if u dun bring the problem out to solve, it will always remain as a problem. A fren told me something interesting yst... "Think positive and things will be positive"... something along that line... and this is simply true when tagged with communications... if u think the problem is too huge to solve, it will always be one... But if u think u can solve it, the problem will always be just another problem... Life is tough enuff with the many problems that comes with it, but we shld stay positive and deal with every problem as it comes...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/20/2006 06:37:00 PM
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Sunday, March 19, 2006 || A Day of Mixed Emotions
After lunch, I headed for FF for a short session, since I was already there for the lunch. There is a lot less people during weekends, but somehow, this made the place more pleasant to navigate in. Had a jog for abt 20 min, then some serious weights and machines... In between the machines, one of the staff caught my eye, I saw her all the time when I was there, and she always got my attention due to her nice hair... Unlike most men, I AM a hair person, not one who looks at boobs, haha... The reason why I mentioned this was coz when I left the changing room to take my leave from the gym, she was with another two colleagues and I saw her smile in my direction. I smiled back in courtesy as I am quite sure she did that coz I am a customer. Which makes me ponder the different faces that some people put on in the course of their life. Some had one for friends, one for gf/bf, one for work, one for family. Isn't it tiring to put up so many faces? In the case of this staff, the job requires her to be more friendly than normal, which to me is fine... However, I can't help but wonder how certain people can lie abt something and put up a straight face in front of everyone as if nothing was said nor done... Perhaps it is in their second nature to do it... But I made a mental note not to befriend or even be too close to all these multi-faced people...
After returning home, I came home determined to finish the rest of the book that I had been trying to finish. And I did... and felt so sad for the rest of the day... The ending of the story was sad, but touching... The pregnancy complications turned out to be fine afterall, but Lexie, the mother, ended up dead from childbirth. The mixed emotions the father felt when trying to face the daughter, Claire, was well written by Sparks and totally filled me with the emotions of the difficulties of losing someone dear. The name, Claire, is a name I had in mind, if I ever had a daughter. You noe how some people has the Tommy look, of the Gerry look, I always think the Claire look is someone beautiful and pure, kind hearted and subtle. And as the father brought Claire up, his mixed emotions of Claire's life exchanging for the mother's become less and less significant. The ending filled me with tears as all is still well, though not perfect, somehow, reflecting what life usually is...
Life is never perfect, we win some we lose some... If we can win the things we wan to win, and lose the things we can afford to lose... In that prospect, I think life will be satisfying enough...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/19/2006 09:05:00 PM
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(0) comments The Difference between a Man and a Woman in the relationship
Indeed, Love is something which made the world goes round. We are like actors and actresses on a stage, a stage where ur decisions define your roles, where u made your own choices and live the consequences. Recently, I had a few frens having problems with their relationships, some with the future in-laws, some with their gf/bf proper... some with inner self-struggle... And as some of the them read my blog entries abt relationships, commitment, it helped in a way or two... Had a hall fren who will read my entries with the bf... then they will talk abt what i wrote and ask themselves the same questions which i posed in my entries... somehow, I felt satisfied that my opinions can help, directly or indirectly.
Here is something which I read in the book which touches me very much... and also made me realise the differences in roles a man and a woman plays in any relationship. In the book, the wife was feeling some complications in her pregnancy. Both the husband and wife were equally worried. They had to go thru every ultra-scan sessions, fearing for the worse... that the baby had died in the womb or something... Which let me noe the importance of being emotionally strong sometimes... in instance like this, only the woman is allowed to sob and cry... the man has to put on a strong front... console her, care for her and say the right words... U cannot fall, for u noe ur wife had fallen... u r the only emotional support, my male frens... though unfair, but very true... who ever told u that life is fair? I nvr tot so... same thing goes when any simple thing comes to play... when ur wife tells u that she has problems at work, u got to listen and say the correct words... though difficult but must try... try and get it perfect... suddenly, being a woman doesnt seems such a bad idea... haha... more often than not, woman look to man for emotional support for everything they do... even a simple thing like cutting the hair short requires a lot of support from husbands...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/19/2006 03:41:00 AM
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Saturday, March 18, 2006 || A Blatant Entry
1) Like to call pple and disturb them at the wrong time... somehow, if u noe ur controlling is not so good, pls, stick to ur own job before disturbing others... some of them got a supervisor who has vast experience and got validated in less than half the time u trained... so pls... wan to call, also call at the right time... not when pple hv so many buggers talking to him... SA low sia...
2) Walk away from position... This is the WORST sin in ATC... how can u leave the trainee on the seat alone when there are a/c on the freq... come on... Anything happen, BOTH supervisor and trainee will go to jail... and it will not be fair to the trainee, but in the eyes of the law... it is... and also, close calls shld be to the responsibility of the supervisor...
3) Pls, take a trainee properly, dun ask trainee to "ta" the blame for u when something happens to protect ur "clean" record... Even the juniors or sp noe the number of near-miss u hv with regards to ATC... dun bother abt ur "clean" record lah... it wasnt clean to start with
4) Dun tink what u say in front of some pple, others dunno... 1st and 3rd WSO guys are one of the best-coworkers I worked with... and they DO get their job done... just that they dun boardcast to pple that they r doing work, becos they dun hv an ego as big as a dinosaur... 2nd WSO (B) are also good works...
5) Dun bother tell us what u do, blah blah blah... I tink the problem with some pple is that they tink that the whole world got no work except them... Kao... The earth doesnt revolve around one person... Oh yes, DUN REPEAT what was already decided by management over emails to "make yourself look important"... pls... we got our jobs done even before the meeting... so no need for reminders...
6) No friends... precisely becos u r an egoistic show-bo who boast abt the great accomplishment of ur work and ur controlling... Even KO got friends around him now... precisely becos he noe and change himself knowing what is the problem... Work is team work, not a delegation, with this kind of reputation and doings, how u expect pple to help u willingly?
7) Stabbing people in the backs - This has happen twice already... to my dear coursemate... which precisely why all of us are watching our backs...
8) Integrity problem... Dun tink u say different things to different pple, then the pple at work wont find out... Human's greatest difference from animals is our ability to convert thoughts into words and TALK with conviction... the second stabbing incident shows NO integrity at all...
9) Ego too big to smash - Flight of 3 cannot do GCA when D4 is hot? What kind of BS reason is, "not enuff airspace"? here u r, being a f-up Cat B controller which cant really control, which cant even split 3, there u go, disturbing pple when they r controlling, hellow, what is ur creditability? Pls, no one is borned with skills, but everyone worked hard and try... ur controlling is F-up, and u dun even wan to help urself by practising a split for 3, and choose to protect ur "clean" record... When is the learning going to take place?
Anyone else got something to add, pls put in my comments box and I will add it accordingly... Totally PISSED sometimes... seriously, imagine if the whole workplace knows all these "sins"...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/18/2006 08:38:00 AM
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(0) comments TGIF - Thank God it's Friday...
Here are the some of pics guys...
The aeroplane King also come... dun pray pray
HF, CS and Chang Sing abt something i forgot was what... haha
This Michael, brought some chocolate alcohol thingy which is actually pretty potent...
Second Aeroplane King also here... must buy 4D liao... and also they are Newly Weds...
Wah, My few chance of taking photo with shulinpova... pray pray
Another newly weds...
Two of the late crew, whom stayed till 2.... look at the glasses on the table... Manz...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/18/2006 02:50:00 AM
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Thursday, March 16, 2006 || Persistence
Jus had a dinner with two hall frens, one of whom is hving problems with his r/s now. I was trying to tell him to be more persistent... here is my definition
Persistence is the due course of action with no regards to the past nor future...
Basically in short, do the right thing if u tink it is.... Bro, do the right things if u love her...
here is one of my recent fav songs...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/16/2006 11:12:00 PM
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(0) comments Do U believe in Love At First Sight?
Date 7th Jan : Friends.... Friends... Friends....
Date 14th Mar : My 3X3X3 matrix
Well, a number of my frens have read my latest 3X3X3 matrix. Some my uni frens would be familiar with this theory of mine since I talked abt it a number of times. Which brings me to the topic proper, Love At first sight... Some of u know I am currently trying to finish a book by Nicholas Sparks named At First Sight... one of his latest work... Is there such thing? Do u believe in it? I dun... why?? I believe that there is no such thing... definitely, at first sight, there is attraction, but I guess that is all... I am the kind of person who believe that it will be better for the couple to know each other to a certain degree of friends, before even considering to be together... well, if u refer to the hyperlink above under the first entry, I tink the two shld reach at least normal friend plus, close friend or soul mate before anything happened... ie. u shld try to understand the person first (to a certain degree), before even considering the person as a potential half... My thinking is that, if u dun noe a person, how can u like or even love a person? If u tink u do, then my question to u is : what do u like/love abt him/her? Only Looks? Becos there has to be a number of characteristics or qualities that u like in this person, before u consider him/her as a potential... These qualities shld also fit ur "ideal half" to a reasonable degree... and probably have the possibility of fitting another portion of it... Guys and girls, a relationship/marriage is a journey of understanding filled with desire... if this person dun fit a person who will fill u with desire, then why bother start a relationship just becos he/she is attractive?
Which brings me to my clarification on the second entry i post two days ago... mainly the first 3 dates. Like I mentioned, u shld noe this person to a certain degree before asking her/him out on a first date... well, u may noe her/him from workplace, outings with groups, chit chatting over internet, phone conversations etc etc... u noe, things frens do to understand each other ... but somehow, nvr got the chance to sit down and talk abt life, abt relationships, abt what is the type of guy/girl she/he desire... so yes... Looks still plays a part... But These 3 dates that i put forth in my theory are dates which allows u to go into another level of understanding... another level of open-ness with this person.... not those which u ask some girl/guy out after getting her number in a pub or something to that extent... u need to progress up the friends chart before ATTEMPTING to go into relationship proper... that is my advice to everyone... single or attached...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/16/2006 07:05:00 PM
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Wednesday, March 15, 2006 || Things I wanna do
So much said abt life, love, career... Today, I tink i shld post something abt myself, the things I wan to do... here is a list...
1) Go to Japan to watch the Sakura season
2) Go to Paris with my other half to see why is Paris so romantic
3) Go to Egypt
4) Go to England, Liverpool, Anfield Stadium to watch Liverpool play, and they better not lose
5) Go to LV once... but not to gamble...
6) Be a boss
7) Buy a Jaguar when I get older
8) Decorate and design my own place
9) Go to New York once in my life
10) Drive a convertible along the roads of Gold Coast Australia
Ehrm, now it is only 10 I can remember, there is alot more... but jus cannot recall off-hand...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/15/2006 09:14:00 PM
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Tuesday, March 14, 2006 || The image of Performance Excellence
Hisashi Mitsui |3/14/2006 11:15:00 PM
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now, to my fav... something which I tot of, after listening to the different relationship problems, relationship successes, and doubts... I named it 3X3X3 matrix... haha... so fanciful hor... Anyway, what I mean, let me bring u to the start of a possible relationship.
First 3 --> 3 attempts on dates... Right in the beginning, there has to be a mutual attraction to start with... of coz, u got to have the girl's fone number or something like tat... so ur attempt to ask the girl out depends on one impt thing - Mutual attraction. Though superficial like I mentioned in my previous entry, LOOKS is still the determining factor... so u go and attempt to date the girl out... one try, if she said yes.... u can noe one thing, there is a certain level of mutual attraction between the two person but the question is whether it can develop further than frens... If the answer is no.. maybe she is not free... so 2nd try... not free... third try, ask using a blanket period, like "Any day u will be free next week?"... if she said no again... dun bother... this usually means a few things, one, she is not interested in knowing each other better as frens, ie. mutual attraction not enuff... two, U r not good looking enuff... three, she is interested in someone else... or the lowest possibility, she is really really busy... whichever the case is, u two are not in a stage of ur life where ur lives will intersect each other...
Second 3 --> 3 dates !! I feel that 3 dates is sufficient whether u wan to carry further with this person... Mind u, the dates I am talking abt is not movies... but over a meal, coffee, where there is significant amount of chatting and talking in getting to know each other better. background, lifestyle, opinions of life, work, family, religion, character, likes and dislikes etc etc... after 3 dates, u shld ask urself whether u wan to carry knowing this person in a deeper level to explore the ultimate possibility of marriage. If up to the third date, u dun feel comfortable with this person, dun see ur life with her/him in it... then jus stay as frens... who noes, sometime down the line, people change, life change... U two might have the possibility of ending up together again...
Third 3 --> 3 mths !!! Go dating for 3 mths as bf/gf... somehow, human instincts will come into play... and if u noe what u wan in the latter part of ur life, 3 mths is more than sufficient. Of coz, there is no 100% fit into the ideal partner u wan... pls take note of that... haha... Most importantly, u MUST be able to see a future together...
Once u passed this stage, be glad to noe that it is worthwhile to stay in this relationship... if one fine day u end up breaking up, u will definitely noe that what u had was something worthwhile spending all the time and effort in... and the memories that came with it will be there to stay in ur mind...
Well, it is easier said than done like every other economics theory... I am not saying that my theory is fool proof, as I always said, there are exceptions to everything... This is just my theory... u can hv urs... hee...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/14/2006 09:38:00 PM
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(0) comments Turning Point of Life
Recently, I had a chat with a fren who brought up two problems in his life, Love life and Career... Without doubt, these two are usually the most important things in life, besides family and God... he knew what he wanted to achieve for a career... and his current occupation is just a job... On the other hand, he mentioned that he dunno why sometimes he minds his gf being certain way she is... and he is not sure if she is the one she wan to live his life with... strange, but I realise what is happening to him... he reached the turning point of his life... The point when u suddenly noe what u wan to do with ur life, and not just live each day as it is... then u start to compare ur "ideal" life with ur current life and feels something needs to be done... I had that feeling a year or so ago too... the determination to change ur life suddenly seems very clear... very crystal... decisions start to be formed... plans start to come... it goes on to "form" the life u wan... A number of days ago, I posted an entry on DESIRE... and what u wan... I have this to say to my dear fren : Career, it is right to do what u can, it is ur life... dun care what others say... Love Life, there is nothing wrong with demanding more from ur partner, she/he will be the one u spend ur life with, so what's wrong with asking for more? Most importantly, u must noe the qualities u wan in a partner, and even though in life, u can nvr get a totally 100% guy u wan, make sure it is as close to 100% as possible.
Hisashi Mitsui |3/14/2006 09:22:00 PM
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Monday, March 13, 2006 || The wind in my hair
Hmm... let me bring up a very general topic... CHOICE... I am sure people who watched the Matrix Trilogy will be familiar with this term... We live life making choices everyday, from simple choices like what to wear, what to eat, what to things to buy, to bigger ones like Who do I choose, which job should I take, where do i live, and how many kids I want... It is strange how every choice u made actually has a consequence, no matter how big or small it is... sometime ago, my frens and I came across a topic abt girls who doesnt really like to choose... Let me paint u a scenario
Guy : Hey, so what would u like to do today?
Girl : I dunno, anything loh...
Guy : watch movie?
Girl : Anything loh...
Guy : Watch Brokeback Mountain?
Girl : I tot it is a gay show?
Guy : Ehrm, then what kind of show u like?
Girl : I dunno... anything loh...
Guy : ....
Speechless... haha... I had a gf like tat for my first relationship... was with her for 4 years... She is nice, quiet and really the wife-material kind of girl... Some of my frens actually commented that hving this kind of girl as a gf is boring... in a way, yah i would agree... but then on the other hand, it depends on the guy's reaction also... so wat kind of girl matches what kind of guy... one type of girl matches one kind of guy... I believe that everyone lives for a purpose... whether is it for a job, for an achievement, or for someone special... so make your choices carefully... CheerZ
Hisashi Mitsui |3/13/2006 08:25:00 PM
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Sunday, March 12, 2006 || Dedicated to a fren...
This entry is dedicated to a fren... Something happened at home... but everything will be fine... Be strong for the Lord will be there... In God we trust
This is my prayer to thee, my lord---strike,
strike at the root of penury in my heart.
Give me the strength lightly to bear my joys and sorrows.
Give me the strength to make my love fruitful in service.
Give me the strength never to disown the poor or bend my knees before insolent might.
Give me the strength to raise my mind high above daily trifles.
And give me the strength to surrender my strength to thy will with love.
Hisashi Mitsui |3/12/2006 11:16:00 PM
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(0) comments The phases of relationships...
bf/gf phase - More often than not, this can be termed as the easiest or the hardest phase... the easiest period probably happened during the "honey-moon" period... where couples are so in love until they totally forgot the flaws of the other person... some say honeymoon last 3 mths plus minus.... some say shorter... Personally, I had the longest honeymoon period for a year... yes, a year without quarrel or even argument... flawless in a way... However, after the honeymoon period is usually the tougher times... to some, it is easier, due to efforts to contain the problems and work on them together... many a time, only one half is working on the relationship problems, which becomes emotionally tiring... Ladies and Gents, there is no such thing as a Perfect relationship... if u think u hv found the one and it is a perfect relationship, think again... it takes commitment, time, lots of effort and most importantly, lots of communications to make a relationship works... As long as both parties put in effort and are willing to make sacrifices, the relationship can last...
post gf/bf phase - Known to some as the Love Tombstone... the step into marriage is totally different from a relationship... acceptance of a relationships encompasses only 2 person, but a marriage includes two familes... two different groups of pple, including friends... many a times, the main problem in this phase is failure to commit... some pple are jus not used to being "tied down" for their lives... or even starting a family... they prefer the stage of bf/gf more than anything else... not easy manz...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/12/2006 08:34:00 PM
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(1) comments More pictures of the wedding
In the suite... The day is over... but the night has jus began for the couple... haha...
At the Church...
Our special room for viewing the ceremony
Finally, the day ends... with the dinner...
Swordbearers, fall in...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/12/2006 06:58:00 PM
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A candid shot for the couple themselves, AARON and CAROL...
The brothers with the bridal car... Mic, Chang Sing, Jer Sim, Choon Seng and Me...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/12/2006 01:00:00 PM
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(0) comments Some pictures I took
My xiao bai... With the wedding ribbon... Brother's car...
My table.... Ethan is missing.. tink he went toilet... damn...
Me and the Chio-est Bu in RSAF...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/12/2006 02:01:00 AM
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(0) comments A long day of Brother-ing
Everything went smoothly for the dinner as well... the lot of us swordbearers/brothers like me, becks , dino and mic jus relaxed in the room available until the dinner... shiok manz... the bed is really comfy... by the end of the dinner, i was pretty drained with the energy lost throughout the day... Though we did have a really fun table to spend the entire dinner with... lots of jokes... and guess what, there was this little girl who went round the hall taking pple's chocolates, which was meant to the guest's gifts... not that i mind... but it is so cute and silly too... haha.... The overall swordbearing for the day was ok... this is my third assignment... it is pretty refreshing to have PT and Gerry to join us... something which i din see during my first 2...
I realised I got some great frens which had went thru so many different types of days, tiring ones, sad, happy, shiok, relaxing, enjoyable... frens is really something I thanked God for creating...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/12/2006 01:29:00 AM
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Thursday, March 09, 2006 || How Nice is Nice?
Which leaves me to ponder... "How nice will your treat your other half?" There are some that gave me the theory that u shld always hold some back, so that u can pull that out when the time is needed... Others told me, "see mood loh"... another fren told me, "give your everything and u will be rewarded"... But is it true? Like I always like to say, there is always exceptions... For me, I prefer to believe in the last theory about rewards... I used to have a fren, whose bf really doesnt treats her well... There was once she was sick, and he will rather go clubbing with his frens than visit her, jus asking her to "take some panadol and rest". Seriously, I mean, "hello... she is your gf, your possible future wife !!!" Not that my fren doesnt treat her bf badly, u noe... She will go all out to meet him after work, even made him cakes and brownies (though I dunno whether nice or not)... but her good intentions and thoughts are so touching... Whenever she complains to me, I always tell her that he is taking her for granted... which leads to the question, "When is being nice becoming taken for granted?" This problem happens with a lot of guys... seriously... I tink it is a guys tendency... somehow or rather, when the gf becomes too nice, she will slowly evolves into a "maid" or a "second mum"... I tink that is happening to my bro... haha... But I tink the reason why it is more of a guys tendency than girls is coz of the way they expressed their care to the other half... girls will go into small details/actions, making brownies, cooking, buying some small stuff which he always wanted to buy but forget, reminding him to pay his bills, asking him if he had done something which he shld be doing, the list goes on... tends to be small stuff, u noe, some actions and details which is in our everyday lives but nvr really got the emphasis it needed... guys tends to do something more "visible"... like flowers, a nice dinner, a present of something which the girl wanted to buy for a Long Long time... sometimes we tend to forget that our halves needed our attention more than anything else... It may sound simple, but it is something a lot of us are guilty of NOT doing it... with work dominating a definite portion of our lives, we tend to overlook the simple things which we can do to show appreciation... when is the last time u actually told ur other half that they are beautiful? when was the last time u looked at her/him the way u used to when u first got together? so my dear frens, if u hv that someone with u now, go give her a kiss, and tell her that she is beautiful and how lucky u are to hv her in your company, and do that from the bottom of your heart...
Enjoy your day and life...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/09/2006 10:34:00 PM
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(0) comments Another swordbearing assignment
Hisashi Mitsui |3/09/2006 10:24:00 PM
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(0) comments Types of readers....
Some time ago, my other fren actually questioned me on why I am blogging... For me, it is just an avenue to write and be heard... for frens whom sometimes dun catch up with due to work and stuff to know how I am actually doing... to put my thoughts into words and share with others, sharing of opinions and experience... also as an avenue for frustrations... No doubt alot of things are very personal... but I am usually a very open person, and I will be straight-forward if u allow me to, to me, writing some personal stuff is not a bad thing... coz I believe everyone's life experience is different, so sometimes u can learn from others and others can learn from u... there is no ONE superior being who is better than everyone else... if u tink u r one, GO DIE lah.. no one likes u... not becos u r too good, becos u totally dunno where u stand in the society.
Anyway, I realised I got a few types of readers... 1) Readers are likes my entries abt life... One of my hall mate actually took some of the things I wrote to put in her own blog... 2) Friends interested in knowing how I am... A good thing, definitely... 3) People who are bored and needed something to do... Since I updated my blog pretty regularly... and most of the time with different topics, some people actually included my blog as part of the readings as well... 4) I-dunno-why-type... haha... Frankly speaking, I also dunno why is there such a group... either they kapo... or purely click the wrong address everyday...
enuff said... time to go to sleep, and wait for the lousy-pool match...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/09/2006 01:04:00 AM
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Wednesday, March 08, 2006 || Do you change?
Hisashi Mitsui |3/08/2006 07:07:00 PM
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Tuesday, March 07, 2006 || My dear friend gracie
My god... I am so much darker than her... gracie, u look like Hainan chicken lah... haha
Hisashi Mitsui |3/07/2006 11:01:00 PM
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Monday, March 06, 2006 || Eric Means...
From the Old Norse name Eiríkr, derived from ei "ever" and ríkr "ruler". Danish invaders first brought the name to England. A famous bearer was Eiríkr inn Rauda (Eric the Red in English), a 10th-century navigator and explorer who discovered Greenland. This was also the name of kings of Denmark, Sweden and Norway. Moody, contemplative, courageous. Given to day-dreaming. Has a high standard of ideals.
Hisashi Mitsui |3/06/2006 05:47:00 PM
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Sunday, March 05, 2006 || What is a rebound?
I had a strange dream yst... I tink some of it is due to the Nic Sparks book... I was siting beside a window, with white walls, on something like a platform... The music was so classic English songs with a certain jazz favour in it... I was sipping my coffee, the aroma smell like Blue mountain, one of my fav coffee... looking out, there is a garden... the season seemed to be Autumn, with dead leaves, and most trees were yellow in colour... The sky was lightly litted with the sun almost setting... Suddenly a forearm came across from my right shoulder and a peck on my cheek... a voice came on and asked, "What are u thinking?" I took another sip of my Blue Mountain and replied, "About us, and how lucky we are"... Unknowingly, I was swaying from side to side, to the music in the background, with the long-hair person behind, with a very nice and soothing voice... She was humming to the tune of the music... Her long hair stretching down across my shoulders, a little copper in colour... There, I was holding a book all these while, a book without title... something similar to what was seen in THE NOTEBOOK... The sweet voice queried, "Are you going to love me forever?"... and I went, "No, of course not, I am going to die one day you know, but I will love you as long as my heart is beating, then after that I will see you in heaven, to know u, and fall in love again, one more time... and THEN it will be forever"... Unfortunately I woke up after seeing smile and the lips of this someone...
A peaceful dream... perhaps a replica of what I have read so far... or something which I desired all these while... A peaceful life... without the excitment of the ups and downs... I am the type of person who dun mind spending the weekend at home, watching a DVD or two... taking lazy naps, going for a walk along the beach... going for a jog once a while, just to make sure the heart keeps pumping for an additional few years, with my family... enjoy good food while I can... a dip in the pool occassionally... shoot some hoops... play some games on the comp... travel... no need for fancy cars, luxurious ball room dances etc... I am a common man, with common thoughts... Hope the dream continues tonight... like a serial drama... coz I havent see the face of the girl...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/05/2006 01:15:00 PM
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Invisible tears
Hidden within my heart
Sadness fills the days
Loneliness won't stop.
Passion runs deep
Desire still speaks
Feelings remain
Your Love...I seek.
Memories live forever
Dreams never go away
Desire still remains
Forever it will stay.
Invisible tears
No one can see
Only my heart knows
They live within me....
Hisashi Mitsui |3/05/2006 11:20:00 AM
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(0) comments Good things are worth waiting...
Jacky Cheung : Wo Zhen De Shou SHang Le
Jay Chou and XXX : SHan Hu Hai
Jay Chou : Yi Lu Xiang Bei
Andy Lau : Qing Sheng De Yi Ju (Classic manz)
MayDay : Lian Ai ING
Jay Chou : An Jing
Lin Sheng Jie : Chi Xin Jue Dui
Guang Liang : Tong Hua
Anyway, I got a new coat of paint, courtesy fr my Dad... White again... but whiter than my previous white... My original white is more like cream white... but this current white is white white... NICE!!! haha... and I got a set of 2nd-hand rims for $480 bucks... Abit bronze, defintely look better on my car than the original ones... cool... my car is all ready for Aaron's wedding... oh, for good fren, Mr Aaron Tan is getting married this Sat. Congrats Aaron and Carol !!!
Read another two chapters from At First Sight"... I realised I din really have much time to read it after I bought it... Just a few pages here and there... but then I realised this saying is very true... "Good things are worth waiting..." Just take for example, a couple have to wait 9 mths before their new-born arrived... and usually the moments that come are breath-taking... as well as the years that follows... In work also, sometimes, u work hard for 2-3 mths... just for one day to happen... I had alot of such moments when I was Sports Sec for MPE Sch Comm... at the end of the day, u will look back and be relieved that everything is over... And What abt love? So many pple out there, wait and wait, until the one finally come... Isnt that worth waiting? I have a fren who was secretly in love with some girl since JC... but nvr found that moment of courage to tell her... Days, months, years passed... Recently, I just heard he got together with her, after both graduated from Uni... To count in exact years, they knew each other for 8 years before actually getting together... And all the while, the guy has still in love with her... The girl actually had 2 relationships before this one... But hell, if my fren can wait till now, he deserves a shot at her... for the determination and persistence he has... It is not easy to have this kind of determination, esp when the girl is attached, u nvr know when she will suddenly walk down the aisle... If u are in such a situation, how long will u wait? 1 yr? 2 yr? For me, it is just waiting for the right one to appear... no such thing as time frame... sometimes when u tink u r waiting for someone, but actually there is another one waiting for u... then how? or in my case, when u tink u hv found the right one, but actually u might be disillusioned...
I got two frens who told me they like sporty girls... coz they were intro to this girl by one of my other fren's fren, and she is those quiet type... but sound really professional on the mic... nice voice too... seriously guys, we shld train more... haha... Anyway, it brings me to ponder myself, what type of girl I like actually? A third fren will tell me a practical answer, RICH GIRL?... haha... of coz he was joking... Like I mentioned in my previous entries, I dun really hv a consistency of type and taste according to my past relationships... But I do noe one thing, one of my sis Ziling pointed this out to me when I was in JC... That I am attracted "qing xiu" girls... However, till now I still dunno what that exactly means... All my impression is "clean and proper"... So I wont noe how to define whether a girl is qing xiu or not... Just that I think most of the girls I think is attractive falls into this category... Of coz, there are always exceptions... Character-wise... I am not sure also... There was once in my life, after my 3rd r/s, I actually told myself what kind of girl I would want... I actually told one of my close fren from Hall, Rene (he is a guy) I told him I wanted someone like my first gf... nice, "qing xiu" type, one of those type of girl whom I classifed as "wife material", this is the type of girl whom u can pamper and feel good abt it, coz a little effort can caused some touching tears to be shed... ehrm, let me tell u a situation, There was once my hall mates actually jio to go clubbing on a Sun night in effort to help another fren sell tickets... somehow, all of us were in the mood, so off we go... and I told my ex gf (3rd one) that I am going, wont be back too late... So she stayed in Hall to wait for me... I was back abt 1, and she had fell asleep and when I am back, she was woken up and asked me, "Are u hungry, i go cook noodle for u to eat... " At that moment, I was so very touched for that moment, that I almost had tears in my eyes... Not many girls can accept a last minute, "I am going clubbing fr the bf and comes up with such a statement... I told myself that if I am lucky, I would hv this girl as my wife... but eventually, things din work out... Sighz... I guess now I am just waiting for Destiny to continue toying with me...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/05/2006 01:51:00 AM
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Saturday, March 04, 2006 || Great Party and I knock out early
I ended up laying on the sofa and falling asleep for quite some time... Which I dunno is how long... I still remember Mellow arriving and asking me to go to the bed to lay down properly and said she wans to chat... Maybe she wans to avoid the big BOOZE they are pouring out in the other partition of the suite... haha... But Johnny and Becks are kind enuff to send me and Shulinpova home... Mind you, they stayed in Jurong... What can I say? I got great friends... Thanks guys... A less "loud" outing tonight... and no, I am going to stay away from the booze so that I dun knock out myself manz... I rather be sober and enjoying the fun rather than falling asleep... Once again, thanks for the party and invitation Ethan !!! Hope everyone else enjoy themselves...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/04/2006 08:17:00 AM
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Friday, March 03, 2006 || Work Work Work
The body has been aching so much recently... After FF on wed, yst me n 3 frens went to ECP for a jog... and dinner... I can almost feel my muscles screaming at me to stop... oh manz.... However, the exercises have done me good in the sleep department... I fell asleep almost instanteously... which is good... keeps me away from undesired thoughts wondering and things like tat....
Going to attend a belated bdae party soon... Got to sleep alot tmr manz...
Hisashi Mitsui |3/03/2006 05:35:00 PM
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Wednesday, March 01, 2006 || First Time at Fitness First Paragon
Hisashi Mitsui |3/01/2006 10:51:00 PM
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(2) comments Love at first sight
Anyway, still dunno who the person is, who left the message on my earlier entry, an interesting message though. Could be someone I dun even noe...
Reading the new book by Nicholas Sparks makes me ponder abt one thing : Laws of attraction. What makes a person attract to another? Guys guys guys... Dun look at this blog and go thinking abt boobs... haha... Well, initial physical attraction maybe... but inner self? Independent? confident? Somehow, everyone's definition is different... been in 4 relationships, I also dunno what kind of girl I like, or want even... My first gf was the quiet type, fair, study hard type... second one was wild, crazy when in love, aggressive... third one was somewhat in between the first two, smart, sociable, funny... fourth one is really similar to the second one... Sometime back in Dec, I posted an entry abt the 10 qualities I will admire in a girl... But are those the ones I am looking for? I am not sure... But one thing I noe, I am a "hair" guy... the first thing I looked at when I see a girl, is the hair... weird to some of my frens... but yah... i guess that's just me... Now, I am really spending a lot more time with the friends that I have... And I realised how great my friends can be... And I am glad I have the chance or luck to noe these friends of mine... And I thank God for them...
Time to sleep.... ZZzz
Hisashi Mitsui |3/01/2006 12:11:00 AM
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