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Tuesday, October 31, 2006 || Day 7 in Rocky
Really starting to miss everyone and everything back in SG... I used to think that my parents need not call me when I am overseas... well, of coz, those times, I am away for leisure... but this time, here for work, I was quite relieved when my Daddy call me yst... chatted for a couple of minutes, just feel glad that someone is back home thinking abt u... Bought a couple of postcards, going to send them back to Singapore.... n of coz, I do envy some colleagues with a wife/gf to call home to...
Hisashi Mitsui |10/31/2006 04:41:00 PM
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(0) comments Found a Nice Church In Rocky
Hisashi Mitsui |10/31/2006 04:40:00 AM
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Monday, October 30, 2006 || How long is your tolerance time?
Then, when is the "choking" point? This fren of mine, went on for quite a while... I think close to 1 yr to trying to convince the bf to change... Indeed, if it is a bad habit, it should be kicked away... no doubt abt it... I must say, I would categorised my friend into the category with a HIGH threshold... one yr to take something so serous that u can break up with a person is power... Personally, I think I will only give a few mths, perhaps up to half a yr... Granted, pple need time to change... but if the change comes, then it goes also... then u will noe how "determined" this person can be... then to a certain extent, I think u can forget abt it... no point holding on to something/someone whom u noe at the end of the day, will not be with u for a lifetime coz u cannot stand her/his certain characteristics... rather than linger on a tiny hope, why not linger on someone/something new....
Hisashi Mitsui |10/30/2006 06:51:00 AM
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Saturday, October 28, 2006 || Day 4 in Rocky
Day 4 in Rocky,Sat... we set off for Yeppoon, a town beside a beach... bad mistake to go on a sat... it's EMPTY.... we had some pizzas for lunch... pretty tasty i must say.... After tat we drove to Emu park... for some famous and cheap Fish and Chips... but i had some bad throat... so NO NO for me... anyway, got 44 days here more... sure hv chance one.... here are some pics...
The nice beach... not as nice as Phuket n Gold Coast though...
Me @ the empty beach...
The advance party @ Emu Park
Me @ the Yeppoon sign...
Hisashi Mitsui |10/28/2006 06:42:00 PM
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Thursday, October 26, 2006 || Day 2 in Rockhampton
went bac to set up some stuff, plan the roster for the exercise n went shopping... went to the supposedly "shopping centre".... not shopping centre really... was looking for a metal mug to cook noodles with... end up, buying a microwavable plastic container.... tink good enuff... got some idea of how is my working hours, so can plan my "dinners" and weekend food... haha...
dinner was weird, went to a chinese restaurant call Leong's.... the concept is funny... they gave u a container... u can take whatever amt u wan, as long as it doesnt overflow.... for A$8.50.... strange... din really enjoy that chinese food... but after 2 meals of western food, it is a good change... food here is really expensive... got to save some money... until then?!
Hisashi Mitsui |10/26/2006 11:35:00 PM
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Wednesday, October 25, 2006 || Day 1 at Rockhampton
The colleagues have been good so far... We had an MPV at our disposal for the duration of the exercise... Had Red Rooster for lunch, not fantastic I must say, but with no breakfast, anything might comes gd...
The trip here was on the other hand, torturing... seriously, sitting 7 hours at a seat, trying to sleep is HARD manz... I ended up watching 2 half movies, and X men 3 totally... the transit was worse... we had 2 hours to hang out before taking a propeller aircraft to Rockhampton from Brisbane Domestic Airport.... With not enuff sleep, it was torture again.... looking at the time of the flights back in Dec, the transit time looks more healthy.... probably why we ended up sleeping right after lunch... now is 2315H here in Rockhampton, probably going to catch more sleep later...
Hisashi Mitsui |10/25/2006 09:10:00 PM
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Tuesday, October 24, 2006 || Leaving on a Jet Plane
Hisashi Mitsui |10/24/2006 08:46:00 PM
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Monday, October 23, 2006 || Do you know yourself?
Indeed, is there anyone in this world who really noe themselves? Pple always say this cliche statement, that women are complicated creatures... hard to understand at times... now, first of all, do we allow pple to noe us? Long ago in one of my entries, I mentioned that Love, or rather relationships/marriage is a journey, a journey of understanding.... BUT do we open up ourselves to others, to our other half? sometimes, do we wan to talk abt our troubles? first of all, usually we have to find someone we can talk to... someone to confide to... a soulmate of sort... secondly, we must have a willingness of talk abt the matter...
I, for one, had instances whereby I dun wish to talk to anyone abt my worries or what I am troubled with... these few days is one period which is like tat... with this trip to Australia, I was hoping to sort out some lingering things in my mind... and sort out wat's my plan for the next few yrs...
My own suggestion to all my frens... it is important to noe when is the time to call timeout? Use this timeout, give yourself space, noe urself... ur needs... ur wants... and weigh the proportions of which is more impt, wants vs needs, what u will give up for ur wants/needs, and act from there... not only to relationships, but to everything in life... of coz, sometimes what u wan, u may not get... so always be prepared to lower ur requirement if needed...
Hisashi Mitsui |10/23/2006 10:09:00 PM
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(0) comments Jay Chou - Tui Hou (Still Fantasy)
This is one of my fav song from the new album, Still Fantasy... Enjoy... Jay Chou's Tui Hou
Hisashi Mitsui |10/23/2006 12:27:00 AM
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Saturday, October 21, 2006 || Honesty vs Man's Ego
for example, this guy goes after one of his good frens, made his feelings known and the girl rejects him... the reason given was, "not ready for relationship".... well, seems pretty fair for a reason.... and also for the two to remain frens.... but here comes the problem, not so long later, the girl gets attached... the guy feels hurt.... and cheated of coz, least to say disappointed... I mean, being frens, he expected a higher level of honesty.... I have thought abt it and I tink the problem lies with what the girl thinks abt the guy.... ie. how big is his ego? More often than not, this EGO problem is something that guys, or gals for this matter, have to deal with, whether in or out of relationships.... well, in this case, I guess the girl dun wan to hurt his ego, and tells him an"excuse"... and in the end, it is not really the truth... her real reason is probably that she treats him as a fren, and have no feelings abt going into a relationship with him.... BUT she is open to others... my personal take on this, if u ever wan to carry on the friendship, then pls say the truth... if the friendship is worth keeping, he will not let his ego stand in the way... maybe for the initial period, but after a while, I believe he will still remain a fren...
Hisashi Mitsui |10/21/2006 08:12:00 PM
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Thursday, October 19, 2006 || How petty can A guy or A girl get?
Anyway, have u ever wondered how petty u can get? My own bro for one, is a super petty person for a guy... I was telling Gracie abt the quarrel between my bro n my parents... even she was shocked... Seriously, I sometimes wonder how petty some girls and even guys can be... I think sometimes pettiness can be something controllable... Most of the time, it has to do with how much u value something... and these pple probably put their value or attention on the wrong things in life... A simple thing as late for 15 min, could end up to be something so dramatic that it caused a breakup.... I tink it is impt to noe ur partner... what ur partner dun like, esp those things he/she hates, and try to avoid it... some pple dun like their partners to be late, some dun like smoking, some dun like their partners to club etc... so avoid at all cost !!! dun go to the danger sign when it is there... haha...
Hisashi Mitsui |10/19/2006 10:02:00 PM
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Tuesday, October 17, 2006 || A long lost fren and travelling as frens...
Was chatting with a long lost fren just now... caught up with her sometime ago, when i went thru friendster to find some frens like tat... Glad she din forget my existence in NTU... Anyway, I think sometimes when u r single, u jus got time to find back all ur frens to keep in contact n stuff... n frankly, glad technology has provided everyone with this advantage... too bad, internet wasnt in SG earlier, if not, I probably wan to use it to find back all my pri sch frens, my NPCC boys etc...
Anyway, a question to you guys and gals out there... Would you agree to travel with a fren of the opp sex alone? I Dunno... seriously, I nvr tot of this qn before... As a guy, n my own opinion, I would if either one of these two is true 1)The fren is a super close fren. 2) I like the girl. Of coz, another factor to consider is the place u r going... going places like HK/Taiwan type, where it is shopping n eating... it could be fun going with a fren... but let say going to Beach resorts, or Ski destinations, where there tends to be a little romantic feeling, perhaps it could be weird to go with a close fren... But, there are just my thoughts... what abt u?
Hisashi Mitsui |10/17/2006 11:26:00 PM
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Monday, October 16, 2006 || Gestures of Commitment
Hisashi Mitsui |10/16/2006 10:38:00 PM
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Sunday, October 15, 2006 || Tiring Weekend
The evening was following by dinner with Jassie, Stacy and Gerrard @ Cine and movie with Rene+gf and Gerrard... The movie was extremely disappointing (The Departed)... though I must say Leonardo Dicarpo's acting has significantly improved since his days in Romeo and Juliet... The girls and gerrard went Momo but I was Berms and slippers and really too tired to carry on... Maybe next week guys !!!???
Hisashi Mitsui |10/15/2006 01:52:00 AM
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Thursday, October 12, 2006 || How to Remove a scar?
After tat, went to Sim Lim Sq to get memory card for my camera in preparation for my trip to Australia... 7 weeks... wow... never been away from SG for so long... I guess it is a good break... judging from the eventful year I had so far... Lots of ups and downs... though more downs than ups... A good time for me to san4 xin1... before coming back SG and going to Taiwan again... That will pretty much sum up the activities for the rest of the year for me...
Went up to Sungei road for a walk coz my car is parked near there... I took a slow walk through the alleys... pretty cool... seriously I realise I like Retro stuff... not really to use them, but maybe the concept of things then... the past, seems so simple... everything is hand-made... technology has given human an edge in everything... but perhaps in place, some things are lost along the way... the flavour of things... the originality of it...
Today, I would like to talk abt the title on the top of this window... "The Past is Just an experience, it is not a burden"... If I din remember wrongly, I think i got this statement from some chinese movie starring Jet Li. Anyway, tat is really besides the point... Well, it is really easier said than done... This is of coz, from my own experience... certain things just leave a scar... a scar that can never be removed... it leaves behind a thinking, a fear, an unspoken block in the mind...
Of coz, trying to be Dr Love here, I am not going to tell everyone to stay put n let whatever happen, eats u up, consume u slowly... Life is as such, but it is how we make of it, draws the force, whether negative / positive, out of each and every one thing that happens in our lives... It will take time, definitely...
There is a few ways to do it... first of all, u got to realise that these experiences, can never be forgotten... so, first method, replacement... find something to replace this... it can be something similar or something totally different... as long as it takes away the attention, that u hv on it, away... to somewhere else, something else... it could be a an activity or an object...
second, stay happy... Happiness is the best thing to lighten someone's load... When IT happen to me, I was miserable... I was staying at home for a long time... I was feeling miserable, even when eating my fav food, things tasted horrible... everything was horrible... I was working hard, perhaps to bring my mind off it... well, It has to do with your mood... as long as u stay happy... everything will turn out to be better... and slowly, the scar will just become a memory... or better a lesson in life...
third, do spare a thought for your loved ones... I realise how caring my parents were to me... same thing goes with my frens... some of them offered time, others offered a nice word or two... And I tink it pains my parents to see me at that state...
GOOD NITEZ...
Hisashi Mitsui |10/12/2006 10:37:00 PM
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Wednesday, October 11, 2006 || Re-Post Of Cai Hong Tian Tang vs Feng
If you are a regular KTV singer, and really into singing, u will realise that u can actually sing Feng with Cai Hong Tian Tang's music... This, I found out abt a mth or so ago... tried it and prove successful... Enjoy again...
Hisashi Mitsui |10/11/2006 12:28:00 PM
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Tuesday, October 10, 2006 || Fill the Holes?
Just for example, guys tend to be pretty messy... some girls tend to be a little spendthrift, or shopaholic... some guys are very insensitive... some girls are too control freaks... there is thousand and one type of flaws in humans... each person with their own different combinations...
There was another saying... that relationships are like two person filling up each other's flaws... like one is messy and the other is tidy, one is talkative and the other is soft-spoken... tat's why some pple say it is usually better to find someone who is different or even in contrast with u... however, there tend to be some flaws which the two person are unable to cover for each other... this is when tolerance comes in... Life is as such, almost like a key, fitting into a key hole... sometimes it may not be a perfect fit... but a 90% fit could just do the trick...
Hisashi Mitsui |10/10/2006 10:32:00 PM
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Monday, October 09, 2006 || Distance...
Was watching this show a fren recommended... sort of like, Sex In the City type... but interesting... and more probably more relevant to us in Singapore...
There was this topic called DISTANCE in relationships... very interesting...
One of the normal one is physical distance. Long distance relationships are never easy to maintain... I ever know of 3 frens who broke up with their bf/gf because they are going overseas to study... they understand the difficulty of overseas relationships... I dun tink there is any answer to this, or a handbook that teaches u how to survive a long distance relationship for that matter... it is a matter of WILL and whether you can accept it or not...
there is another type of physical distance in relationships, intimacy problems... Some couples have intimacy problems... due to a variety of reasons... one of it, is fear... in a modern society, there are still some conservative individuals who will only allow sex to take place after marriage... on the other extreme, there are individuals who have too much of it, until a pt whereby there is a lack of novelty, until a pt whereby sex is just sex, and not make love... until a pt where there is no emotional element involved, but just a biological need...
There is another type of distance - emotional... There are some couples who can be with each other for years, and yet dunno what the other party thinks and like, and ends up always guessing... sometimes, I find that such problems are usually self-inflicted one... some pple just placed a emotional barrier for themselves when they entered the relationship... reasons may range from "dun wan to get hurt" to "cannot bring myself to commit" type... it is just an unwillingness to open up the heart to anyone... The relationship ends up being a companionship rather than relationship....
Hisashi Mitsui |10/09/2006 10:24:00 PM
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Sunday, October 01, 2006 || Stability vs Ambitions
It seems a big dilemma in modern lifestyle... stability vs ambitions... two contradicting elements... so what would you settle for? just taking work for example... if you wan to be ambitions and achieve something, there is often a element of danger and risk... on the other hand, there are jobs in Singapore which provides a high level of stability, example, teaching, or working in Mindef... it really boils down to what you want in life... just like some pple like a wandering one, going from country to country... some others just decided to stay in the same place all the time....
I think the same thing can be applied in relationships... not only what kind of relationship you wan, but also wat type of partners u wan... to some, hving the partner to have a stable job is very impt to them... while others prefer partners who dares to reach out for the stars... nevermind if fail, but the more impt thing is the ambitious element...
My opinion is really to identify what you want in life... whether in jobs, and in relationships... and go stick to it...
Hisashi Mitsui |10/01/2006 11:21:00 AM
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