Abt 10-11 days to go... and I can almost smell the finishing line.... U noe when u run 2.4km in a IPPT test, when u reach the last few hundred metres, though u still hvnt made the last turn, ur body can almost tell u that u r going to see it in the next few seconds coz the body knows how far u hv run... it is something like tat... I miss SG... I say it again, I miss SG... and everything on it...
Seriously, now I noe why so many pple migrate away and come bac to SG...
One of my previous entry long ago, I talked abt persistence... in wooing... perhaps let's talk abt persistance in relationship... I myself been thru a pretty persistance first relationship... it lasted for 4 yrs from start to end... but had 3 breakups in between, the longest break was abt 1yr 3 mths... n in between we both did not see anyone else... ok, let's go away from my own and talk abt it in general...
Why do people persist in a relationship?Is it because of the fact that they noe it will end in marriage?or in hope that the other half will change for the better?or in hope that they themselves will soon see the actual problem as a normal thing, can tolerate it? I think everyone should enter a relationship thinking that it will end in a marriage rather than hoping that it would... I once had a fren's fren who persist in her own relationship for yrs, finally ending in a breakup... but the thing she had to tolerate, was one of the most impossible thing to ask from anyone... unfaithful... and seriously, frens ard her, couldnt understand how she tolerate all these yrs with the bf hving regular one night stands n stuff... and eventually, she broke up with him due to.... UNFAITHFUL... so why is all these pple holding on to something which they noe is going to end up in ashes? Frankly speaking, even Dr Love is not in the position to answer... but I guess it has to do with an unrealistic hope... the HOPE... it is the same HOPE that drives some pple to buy 4D, thinking that they can clear their debts by buying big on a number... the same HOPE that some pple holds when they think that the beautiful woman across the dance floor will come over and say Hello... Yes Yes... there is a certain remote possibility... but in the end, it will just dashed the hopes away when the time comes...
My advice to pple is, Be Realistic... think abt it this way.... U may think that the relationship will end in a marriage, but ur other half may not... so ur HOPE is not in line with any of his... and it always take two hands to clap...
These two chinese characters are always on people's lips when they attended a nice wedding dinner... see a romantic couple on a movie... when a mother holds her child in her arms, smiling and giggling... Indeed... the meaning of these two characters meant a lot... but also have different meaning to different people...
I am currently pretty hooked on to Nic Sparks' The Guardian... ok, this has nothing to do with the movie on-going right now... anyway, I just read something, which triggers this entry...
So what is the meaning of "Xin Fu" to you? Frankly speaking, I am a simple man... and I tink more than half of the world's male population are like me... we are not born with a silver spoon... live in a normal flat... still caught in a rat race... no such thing as achievement to shout abt... no one is going to build a statue for me, like Michael Jordan had... I just read this part abt the girl, having lose the husband to cancer... seeing a fren in her hse... helping clean up after a simple pizza dinner... the thought of her late husband comes to her mind... with her own version of "Xin Fu"... just spending Sun mornings lazing in bed, having coffee in bed... or traipsing in shopping centres... spending half an hour, discussing abt the colour of bedsheet to buy... or just bringing the dog to the beach for a run... or just lying in bed, watching a certain TV serial... this to some pple is considered "Xin Fu"... its simplicity of life... no stress, just spending time with someone who matters to u most...
I guessed life is as such... it is important to live a happy life... but to some, being happy means having a lot of money... to others, simplicity in life brings happiness... As Noah in the Notebook always answered the qn, "How is your day?", his answer would be "Could be better, could be worse"... there is always two sides of the coin...
It's Sun... and duty tonite again... 3rd last duty... last one being Thu... Time this week passed very fast... perhaps due to the 3 duties I did... the week passed faster this way... overnight, go bac hotel recover... wake up for dinner, sleep, next day duty again...
Anyway, me n my two roommates watched SAW III yst... the movie tic here is a whipping A$14.30, compared to the S$9.50 for weekend in SG, this is really exp... not sure whether it is coz it is a Sat yst... But wth... this is probably the only time I am going to watch movie here... so jus whack... The movie was good... I watched Saw I and II with Vijay during our duty off... I tot II was a little disappointing... but this one is right on top of it with Saw I... with some feeding-in into I and II.... very much like watching Inferno Affairs III, where the stories all become complete... Strangely, the show is free-seating... we got there pretty late, but luckily it is a late show... so dun hv much pple...
This morning, I went to the Heritage Village for some Sun market shopping... The place is huge... somewhat like the bigger version of the flea market I went on previous Sundays... took some pics of the place... will post it up when the network gets faster... it was a nice experience... but not much things to buy actually... tmr D off.... will go n look for some affordable shades... saw a fine pair near the Rocky post office...
Horse ride for kids... there is also camel rides too...
They called this lucky witches... to be placed at the door... it moves when there is sound/motion...
This is a DOLL House... where they kept some nice collecton of dolls... looks freaky actually...
To think that classic cars are so rare in SG... down here, they restore these classic cars for fun...
I miss SG, I could just dream abt going back now... Miss my parents, miss my frens... n miss the food...
Hisashi Mitsui |11/26/2006 11:51:00 AM
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My 6th Duty... 5 more to go and the next week or so... alternating days... usually at this time, I will be fast asleep...
Lots of thoughts running through my mind tonite... for whatever reason, I dunno... I had some dreams abt my past yst night... yes, some... not one... from the time I was in pri sch, till my last gf... it seems like my past jus flashed thru my mind... with the highlights playing in front of me... memories of old, good and bad... just kept on playing one by one... I can't help but think that if I had made some decisions differently, I would not be where I am now... and my life will be very different now too... funny how life is actually determined like tat... decisions... choices... different paths...
Abt 3 weeks ago, I sent a couple of postcards back to SG... actually saw a few nice xmas cards, maybe I should start sending from here... should be quite interesting... hmm... something to do tmr...
The past 24 hours have been the most productive of my time here, coz i did two things which i came here for... First of all, for the first time, I went clubbing in Rocky... We went abt 11+ to a disco... and the place was surprisingly empty, much to my surprise of coz... Me and a couple of buddies wanted to go there and show some "class" and drink wine... haha... but tat is not to be as there is none on sale... so we have to settle for some Volka lime and stuff... the entrance fee was ridiculously cheap at A$5 and the drinks ranging from A$4.50 to abt $7... they dun serve by Jug by the way... strange... but who cares... lots of our own guys were there too, totally not to my surprise.... The night was generally boring... n the DJ is not tat gd....
This afternoon was spent on the soccer field... song !!! with some fighter boys... Generally everyone was friendly... I played at my fav RB position... well, I think I did okay... no major mistakes, a number of interception passes, and overlap runs... we started off well, pressurising the opponent.... but concede a soft goal... but we bounce back within abt 4 minutes, scoring 2 goals in quick succession... the half ended with another goal from us... basically, we were dominating and stringing passes together... at half-time, the opponent tried to thrash out their mistakes... which to me, is the release time of the pass... they were usually too late, and allowed our guys to cove them... they made some changes, but when the second half starts, we scored a goal which totally deflated them... 4-1 the score... they started pressing forward, sending more players in front... so our counter-attacks managed to find the goal twice... 6-1, and not the end... we scored two more from acute angles to end the game at 8-1.... Generally good game, the weather that we played was pretty good, a little hot at the beginning, but cooled down subsequently... I managed to last the whole two halves... which is quite impressive for my standard... and also still left with a little in my tank to make a couple of runs and support passes... maybe it was the weather... but... whatever... good game !!! SONG !!!
In my previous post, I talked abt the feel-good factor when marrying someone of ur dreams... Now, let me talk abt something, ON the other hand...
Say, u meet someone, whom u barely noe... could be someone who was a total stranger... or someone u knew long ago, but re-established contact... then a couple of dates, u fall for the person, got comfortable... and somehow, dunno why, dunno how, decide to take a plunge into a r/s with this person, even when u noe u dun really noe the person very well.... but on the other hand, the mystery, the "unknown" factor.... but somehow, the "chemistry" that was felt between the two was sufficient to last a lifetime... and u spent the rest of ur life, trying to noe this person... from living habits, to eating ones, to likes and dislikes, and favourite things... I always tell my friends this, Marriage/relationship is a journey of understanding... after yrs, u may tink u noe this person well, but actually u will nvr noe them totally... because pple change... for two person to get together is magical, and for them to accomodate each other for the rest of their life irregardless of the changes, is even more precious....
A normal day work... ended with some fun cooking, but sadly, the idiotic owner of the motel dun allow me to cook in kitchen, supposedly due to the "difficult-to-use" kitchen stove... KNS ah... but I still managed to cook the fried rice... sneakily... hee.... so had a nice dinner with some salted fish fried rice, some hotdogs... with some friends over here... I still try to keep off the beer....
was talking to my friend, well, for a while... I miss my dear friends in SG... Anyway, this friend of mine is having problems with the bf, or supposedly husband-to-be... Sometimes I wondered, "Do pple actually having the chills when they are abt to take the leap into marriage?" Seriously... I ever like someone when I was pretty young, well, abt sec sch... when I fell for someone... and thru the 4 yrs I was in sec sch, I always thought how it would be like to be married with someone of my dreams... I mean, put it this way, I believe that more than half of the world population doesnt really marry the person they love the most... so it would really be nice, to actually marry someone of your dreams... u noe, someone whom u fall for, and somehow, u always felt something for this person no matter how many yrs later, u still got the hots for her... someone whom u will jus be contented to see her happy... even seeing her walk down the aisle with someone else... goodness... if u marry that someone in your life, u will be literally living in dreamland... in heaven... put it simply, the simplest things abt this person will make u happy... so imagine doing the thing yourself, double the happiness... hee...
Life is never a bed of roses... for those who managed to marry that someone, well, congrats... For the majority of us who din, well, make your someone happy... tink of it this way, u could be that someone's person of dreams... so that's half a glass filled... cheerZ
Abt 3 weeks here aldy... time really goes... today, I am, as usual, on duty again... my 5th one... 6 more after tonite... coz of the duty today, I was able to go to the Flea market here in Rockhampton... Quite an experience... the things sold are very different from wat we see... not so much of the old and used stuff, more of the handycrafts and self-made items and even food... I was there for abt 45 min... managed to get some stuff, at quite a reasonable rate I must add.... forgot to bring my thumbdrive to transfer the pics... hee... next time...
another 4 weeks here, and frankly speaking, I aldy cant wait to go back, to see my friends, my family... though I have got the chance to talk to some of my friends thru msn, but it is jus different when u see each other... wanted to meet up with some friends before I came over, but din manage to, due to the time schedule... hopefully, I can do so when I am back... hopefully, I dun kena too many duties bac in SG too...
anyway, last nite of duty, before a week of day work... then another 6 duties on alternating days... then the work here is almost done... I already had some plans to do some stuff... first of which, is to cook some SG food... like, if possible, I am going to a shop which sells asian food tmr to buy some salted fish, to cook salted fish fried rice... that will be first step... perhaps others will follow... we will see how... I miss the food in SG big time... manz...
It's 1009H here in Rocky, it was a good sleep last night... I got some really strong medicine for my throat from Dr Chua, the type that we make u concuss after dirnking one... solid... two spoonful, and a good sleep all the way till this morning... song...
It is going to be my 4th duty tonite... after this, it is a short break till Sun, before I have my 5th duty then... I am slowly getting used to this duty shit... but still, I rather not work... haha... things r coming in fast and furious... and the last duty was terrible coz me and my partner could not find the safari bed... So we slept on the table... goodness, bad idea... I got myself backache after I woke up... but it was compensate by a good lunch from Suzy's yst afternoon...
The night was ended with a little gathering for Sharon's birthday. Ivy, her roommate, was thoughtful enuff to buy a cheesecake from a famous cheesecake shop here... I must say, I am not into cheesecake, but yst's one was really nice... not too hard, n doesnt taste too cheesy... will post a pic here when i dl them down...
Okay... 11 duties, 3 down, 1 tonite, 8 to go after tonite... wish me luck...
Hisashi Mitsui |11/08/2006 08:16:00 AM
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It is 1am in Rocky now... and the aircon is starting to be cold... I am really a suay person... tmr got so many new things, and I have to be the one doing shift here... KNS ah... 3rd duty now... 8 more hours to go before the comfort of my sleep... song...
Yst was an eventful day... After duty, I came back and slept until abt 12... then the rest of the guys wanted to go Yeppoon... And since I missed the Emu Park's delicious Fish and Chips, I decided to tag along, despite my "a little tired" body from the 24 hours duty...
Anyway, despite the fact that it was a Sun, Yeppoon was alive and kicking... almost all the shops were open... We had bread for brunch, coz we want to save some stomach for FNC... a walk on the beach as usual... more pple on the beach definitely, than the previous Sat we were there... quite okay... Then after that, we drove to Emu Park and enjoyed the FNC... it is indeed better than any other FNC I have ate throughout this trip so far...
The highlight of the night came when we decided to go to Mt Archer for some sight-seeing... pity, the sun was setting when we were setting course for it... if not, I believe it will be a good time to catch a glimpse of the sun set... here are some pics...
Anyway, after Mt Archer, we were to this Chinese Restaurant called Hong Kong for dinner... The place is REALLY run by a couple from HK.... Even their English is pretty much HK-origin... goodness... and we played "Horse" after the dinner... n Scott ended up paying a little more than he should... and cool, I paid a little less... haha...
Hisashi Mitsui |11/06/2006 06:46:00 AM
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After a conservation with my hall fren two days ago, this qn came lingering in my head for a long time until now... Do girls really like Bad Guys? The qn came abt when my fren commented that I am a "big brotherly" figure whom she cant imagine herself falling for... Is it becos I am too nice? It came to my mind that I was once a Bad Boy too... being vulgar in language, swearing around, fighting, having a bad temper... but somehow, it attracts some girls... well, at least all my ex-gf for that matter... I was a man who do not let anyone step over my head... There was once I let go at even my best friend, for playing arrogance when playing WE11 with me... I let go to my ex-gf for not bringing her phone and being uncontactable... comparing the past with now, I am now such a mild-tempered figure... Perhaps, perhaps girls DO like Bad Guys, maybe becos of a sense of security that these guys can protect them... or that someone is there to take care of that big fat cockroach when it appears in the bathroom all of a sudden....
I guess it is the same logic to why some guys always prefer the "gf material" type of girl as a gf rather than a "wife material" as one. The gf material can be fun to hang out with, always dare to try new things, adventurous... whereas the wife is the slow and steady type... good to bring home to see mum and dad, but too boring to see your cheonging kakis...
End state is, pple jus wanna have fun when they are younger... and perhaps that's how I was... when u reach of a certain age, some pple will say u hv had enuff fun, others say u r ready to settle down... then the priority and viewpoint changed... your likes and dislikes of a person change as well... u suddenly realise that the person beside u is not going to spend the rest of ur life with u... That's what life is abt... change...
Hisashi Mitsui |11/05/2006 03:49:00 AM
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Goodness... It is now 8am in the morning here in Rocky, and I am awake after the tiring duty... i barely get any sleep throughout the night... the brief that I was supposed to give is at 10am, hopefully boss lets me go back and someone takes over the brief, in view of the long night I had...
recently, seems that a number of my friends are having problems with their relationships... being here in Rocky isnt exactly helping the situation... Dr Love cant do his work if he is away u noe... haha... but I think I have somehow achieved my objective of coming here to Rocky... yeah, "somehow" is the word... I still got a month or so to turn or get rid of that word...
One of my colleagues, Kris (who has a nice site), wrote abt some discussions that took place back in my SG workplace... (how I wish I am still there)... anyway, it was abt marriage... he and some colleagues have some views, esp with regards to marriage being a "social" act more than anything else...
here is my personal view on the topic, or should I say, Dr Love's view... I do not want to paint anyone a rosy picture abt marriage... Marriage is not an easy task... to me, it is a journey of understanding, tolerance and most imptly, commitment... First of all, to marry someone, u probably have to "share" your life with him/her and vice versa... and this sharing does not only include your family, friends, but also your work schedules, your living habits, eating habits and so on... and when u "share" the other person's life, there is bound to be something which u might not like very well, but u hv to learn to tolerate it... U see, NO two person is so perfectly suitable for each other that u can accept everything he/she is...
Last but not least, is commitment... which I think is the most important, and significant part of marriage... this commitment includes a "one person" clause, and a "I will take care of you till u die" clause... everyone is borned into this world free... and the debt u probably owe is that from ur parents who brought u up, bring food to u, send u to school... but whoever u get together with, has no obligation whatsoever in his/her lifetime to take care of u... he/she does it coz they CHOSE to... or WANT to... and THAT I choose to believe is something magical in this bonding... a bonding which is more by choice...
So if u r pressurized by social reasons, then do not give in... Life is abt one thing, CHOICE... and that of yours... not of others... giving in to social pressure will only bring unhappiness and misery... only selected lucky ones will be spared... so make a wise choice... and stick to it... love the person whom love u, and give him/her the due attention, commitment, respect and love...
Hisashi Mitsui |11/03/2006 06:09:00 AM
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||About Eric|| I am the good o' sanjing (the 3-p king in slamdunk) that everyone is talking about. I am a sucker for chocolate and curry. I love to drive to all around singapore to eat good food
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hail sanjing! my msn is "sanjing07@yahoo.com" CHEERZZ...
