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Tuesday, January 23, 2007 || The ONE?
Come on, think abt this, if there is only ONE person for each and every one out there, isnt it sad? I mean, if u find him/her, well and good... If not, then what? Do you settle for someone else? Well, put it this one, sometimes it is already hard to find someone suitable, least to say THE ONE... So seriously, I begged to differ on statement... Perhaps those who always wanted to find the one should start looking for the OTHER ones... haha... Good day everyone...
Hisashi Mitsui |1/23/2007 10:06:00 AM
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Sunday, January 21, 2007 || Is it all about money?
In a society like ours, I guess a reasonable income is definitely important. And there is definitely nothing stopping us from demanding that our partners from earning a certain amt. BUT, what is the reasonable amt? The girl specified 4k using her own income. DO GIRLS REALLY MIND IF THEIR PARTNER EARNS LESS THAN THEM? I dunno... frankly, though I am in a job which pays quite reasonable pay, but I cant rule out the fact that there is a possibility I might find a future partner who earns more than me. For me, I think guys shld earn enuff, at least to support themselves and not hv to rely on the girl's money. On the other hand, with the society being more and more balanced, there are more and more career-women out there who can command a reasonably high pay compared to their male counterparts. Why would they mind? Is it because they are ashamed to tell ther frens and family that their partners earn less than them? Does this hv anything to do with the female's ego? I guess so... I guess these females do not realise that in a society like SG's at present time, there is less and less difference between male and female capabilities and working efficiency, hence the less difference in pay. With job nature included, all these adds up to more and more of such instances.
My personal view is, what is more important is the emotional attachment and love shared between the two persons. The rest such as income difference, are just material requirement. What is the point of your guy having a higher pay than you and yet not even able to pluck out a few hours a week just to have a meal with u? spend your bdae with you? or in future, be there when u r giving birth? Most of the time, you cant hv the best of both worlds... So unless u r willing to forgive your partner for the little time spent with u, if not, let's just leave the income figures alone.
Hisashi Mitsui |1/21/2007 12:22:00 AM
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Saturday, January 20, 2007 || Cheat and go to Jail?
This is an article I found on yahoo today while reading the normal news... This is the first of its kind... Though if I din remember wrongly, it is also a crime in some religious countries as well. Is this really necessary? I mean, marriage is between 2 person afterall... Besides, what if the wife decides to forgive him, but she will be left "husband-less" since the husband is in jail... Weird law I must say... If u wan me to decide a form of punishment for cheating, den I would recommend a fine or some property transfer from the cheater to the victim... this type of financial punishment will be more painful... when Catherine Zeta Jones married Michael Douglas, she had him signed sort of a contract of this nature... to make sure he doesnt cheat... if caught, will be an expensive one manz....
Hisashi Mitsui |1/20/2007 10:26:00 PM
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Thursday, January 18, 2007 || Pics from 13th @ Dragon Fly
Brain FREZZE !!!!
Our Fondue.... Lovely... @ Swenson with Gerrard and Xiao yu...
Me Gerrard and Rene...
Xiao Yu and Gerrard....
Xiao Yu and me...
Rene and his girl...
Hisashi Mitsui |1/18/2007 08:06:00 PM
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Saturday, January 13, 2007 || 2-D Character?
Being an engineer-educated person, I am fully aware of the difference between 2-D and 3-D. 2-D is widely understood using the x and y-axis. Whereas 3-D will include the z-axis as well. Hmm... how do I put it, ok... Imagine u r driving a car... It is a 2-D road. Because if the car in front doesnt move, and there are other cars left and right of u such that u cant change lane to overturn this stationary car, YOU ARE STUCK!! On the other hand, imagine a flying car, with another dimension to go. In a similar situation, you can either go over or under the stationary vehicle.
My version of a 2-D character will revolves ard the word, FLEXIBILITY. Two of the greatest trades that a person can possess to make him successful in work is resourcefulness combined with flexibility. This person will be able to create a solution using the resources he has and think out of the box. Famous inventors and designers will usually have such trades. Bringing that back to relationship (come on, I am Dr Love, u tink I am going to talk abt work meh?), the flexibility in character will often means this person is more adaptable to his/her partner. Well, some might said it is not a good thing, because you tend not to know what u wan.... and end up becoming the person which your partner wans u to be... Yes, I agreed. So isnt this contradicting? haha.... Let me put my views in a proper manner...
I tink a person should be flexible in finding a partner. This, of course, means the initial stage. You see, I am still in the firm view that No Two Person Are Totally Made for Each Other... There bound to be some differences, just that sometimes it is trivial. If my firm view is correct, then the partner u look for could vary in a wide range. You might like the quiet side of someone, but prefer he/she takes up at least some form of sports. You might enjoy the argumentative side of a person because u two engaged in a intelligent, yet non-offensive debate from time to time... But u do not like it when he/she questioned ur every decision and turns it into a little debate...
A person should also be flexible during a relationship as well... sticking to your wans all the time does not mean making the relationship stronger... Sometimes, a little sacrifice is needed... But do not give in when in matters of right and wrong.... In those instances, u got to stick to it... But also weigh the sacrifices, it is more impt to understand when to give and when to take rather than what to give and what to take... Giving and taking is often one of the more magical things that maintains a relationship in a long run...
The world is so big, and it is hard to identify the person whom suit u the BEST... So get to know the pple more... and den be selective in your wants and duns during a relationship... U will be surprised how much a person can change in a relationship for his/her loved one... So let the 3-D side of u take over in a relationship... and u will see how wonderful it is...
Hisashi Mitsui |1/13/2007 04:01:00 AM
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Thursday, January 11, 2007 || Enjoy these two MTVs
Enjoy, Harlem Yu's Jing Jing De and Will + Evonne's Xin Dong Xin Tong.
Hisashi Mitsui |1/11/2007 12:35:00 AM
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Tuesday, January 09, 2007 || Kloudiia.com and common sense...
Seriously, all these relationships are commonly known as a "emotional relationship" than anything else... and the problem with it is often the fact that emotions run deep and masked our common sense from taking over. Just take one of my fren for example... He and the gf have been quarreling over the most trivial of things... Somehow, it totally reminds me of my own 2nd relati0nship which had at least 2 quarrels a week, for 6 mths.... until I finally took a last straw and decided to end it... I mean, it was seen as "the inevitable" event, just a qn of when... I am not sure if my fren's case is as severe as mine... but it seems bad... they have been breaking and patching for so many times that I got to ask him his status everytime I see him... More often than not, the quarrels are trivial, but fuelled by sarcastic remarks (bad mistake) by one party or both, it usually got so bad that breaking up is the only solution to ending the quarrel... Yet, everytime, somehow, they will patch back.... I guess, there is just too much emotions involved... Pple may argue, "Isnt that what relationship should be all abt?"... Well, half correct... a relationship without the passion, and emotional commitment is not one... but logical thinking and common senese have to be part of it too...
Do you want to marry a womanizer if u cannot stand your partner going astray?
Do you want a gambler partner if u noe both of u cant afford the addict to go on?
But sometimes, these guys/gals just love their partner too much to let go... trying and trying... And some pple might aruge that "love" can solve everything... but in actual fact, it doesnt.... it can bring u happiness in times of sadness... but it can also bring u sadness in times of happiness, which these pple fail to see....
I guess that's life... it is nvr perfect... but common sense... it is always there....
Hisashi Mitsui |1/09/2007 10:18:00 PM
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Thursday, January 04, 2007 || A Prayer for my Friend and Family
I will like to dedicate this entry to a really close fren whom one of her family member is suffering from a terminal illness... Though she is not christian, I hope that she still got the extra strength to last thru this difficult period... No names mentioned as I dun wan too many pple to disturb her at this point of time... My Lord God, through whom strength is made perfect in weakness, I pray to you, give me the strength I need. You have said, that to your children who have no might, you will increase strength. I am weak. Bless me with a measure of strength, as may be sufficient for me. When I am tempted by evil, deliver me, by granting me the power to overcome it. When my daily work is too hard for me, give me the strength to be able to do it. If my burden oppresses me beyond my bearing, lighten my load, that my strength may be equal to it. You have helped many, I beg you to help me.
Hisashi Mitsui |1/04/2007 07:57:00 PM
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Monday, January 01, 2007 || New Year Resolution (Uncompleted)
Ehrm, that's all... 3.5 NY resolutions... for now...
Hisashi Mitsui |1/01/2007 12:17:00 PM
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