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Sunday, July 29, 2007 || An interesting post from SB.com
There are also other interesting posts there, like pple asking for opinions, with regards to infidelity, sex problems in marriage etc. There was this girl who had an interesting problem... She had a bf for 5 yrs, but nvr went into sex with him. They have already started their wedding preparation... One fine night, they went drinking and the bf was dead drunk, and she became cheeky and open up his pants and saw that he has a MP (Micro-penis)... Goodness.... Well, of coz this girl, not being a virgin, she knows what she is seeing... only qn is, whether it was erected fully... well, assuming that it is... What advice would you give this girl? She clearly stated that sex is an important part of marriage life... Some suggested plastic surgery, others suggest she should delay or even cancel the marriage... What would you suggest?
Actually, I think she only got a few options, practical ones of coz... One, cancel the wedding, cite something else as the reason. As shallow as citing sex as a reason not to get married, she also need to keep the guy's ego, and reputation at bay. Two, talk to him and try to settle it as a couple... Go into plastic surgery, try out sex with help of toys... his condition might not be as bad as she think... Three, keep the marriage on, keep quiet, but find other ways to "sex-tify" herself. This option do has its advantages, like keeping the guy's ego intact, keeping the marriage going... But it does have its possible side effect... like if she decide to find a FB or her reliance on sex toys is found out by the husband, then quarrel may erupt... But the choice is hers.... Dr Love dun give perfect solution, he only break the problem into simplicity... Liking sex is nothing wrong, I am sure lots of pple out there will tell u that... but more often than not, your partner is not a perfect sex partner, or rather could fulfil your sexual fantasies... So sometimes it is up to us to divert these energy somewhere else...
Hisashi Mitsui |7/29/2007 08:39:00 PM
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empty parade square...
Another one....
The parade is formed...
Red Lions.... or rather one Lion...
The Flag arriving during the anthem... Managed to see the other spare flag behind actually... Not sure if anyone from the stands see it... 
the RSAF Hornets from 145 Sqn....
Part of the 3D Display....
The fireworks was beautiful.... I was totally into enjoying the whole firework experience than taking pics... the thing lasted for a good 10-15 min... when using the nearby tall buildings as the launch point is a great idea... I must say, this yr's committee has done a good job !!! Well Done !!!
Hisashi Mitsui |7/29/2007 03:51:00 PM
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Thursday, July 19, 2007 ||
Seriously, this is a case of wrong timing... 6 mths on, this bf treats her really well... My take on this is to follow your heart... Put it in prospective, so what if this good fren is interested in her? So what if they know each other inside out? Qn will be, why din he do anything over the many yrs they known each other? A case of "next best choice" maybe? I dunno... What I m trying to say is that, it doesnt mean that the someone whom u always like may be the best partner u can hv....
On the other hand, the relationship could be just in a honeymoon state, so no quarrels, no arguments... easily handled by both parties... But how long can the honeymoon state be sustained? So doesnt seems to have a concrete answer right?!
In my previous entries, I always say this thing called DESIRE... it is one of the most important things in a relationship... As long as u hv the desire, u will go n find out more things abt your partner, as long as u hv desire, u will be able to push away all temptations n external factors... What is your advice for this girl?
Hisashi Mitsui |7/19/2007 09:35:00 PM
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Sunday, July 15, 2007 || An Entry to all in love, or going to be in love
This 3 magical things are essential for a relationship/marriage.
2) Trust : A yr plus ago when IT happen, a lot of pple ask me if I would be able to give a chance if there is remorse. My answer is a straight NO. Reason, simple, the trust is broken. And believe me, this trust cannot able to be back to the old state that it was. No matter how much the other person shows that he/she has changed, you will always have a fear of her/him not comitting to the relationship, or doing something behind your back etc. Even if you do trust her/him, it is based on what she/he has done AFTER the whatever matter happens, like reporting to you, showing him/her your fone... blah blah blah... to assure you. But put it this way, would she/he need to do such things if it din happen initially? I guess what I am trying to say here is, trust is like a mirror, even if it is mended back, it will have cracks. You can stick it perfectly back from pieces, but the cracks are always there, and therefore, fragile.
3) Commitment : I always believed everyone in a relationship or marriage should be committed. This includes caring, and loving the other person... even a simple fone call can go a hundred miles. Whether the couple is in the country together or apart overseas, the same applies. The world is no longer in a stage where communication goes through letters. Your loved one is an sms, a fone call, or webcam away from you. Spending that 10-30 min will re-assure each other of the commitment they have for each other. If you dun even wan to spend this short 10-min to tell your loved one that you loved her/him, then what makes you think you want to spend the rest of your life with him/her? What kind of assurance do you offer? All I can say this, it takes EFFORT!!!! If you want your loved one to shower you with tender love and care, be prepared to DO IT FIRST !!! Girls, DEMAND for love and accept nothing less, Gentlemen, give love first then demand love... That's how the world is, and should be...
To my darling Gracie, it has been nice having you as my dear... You have been really supportive and encouraging of me and my actions... You are always there to listen to my problems... I may not say it out loud, but your presence in my life makes me whole. You are my 12th !!! I love you always...
That's all fr Dr Love. Till next time....
Hisashi Mitsui |7/15/2007 03:17:00 AM
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